Tip 1: How to determine the child's fright

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Tip 1: How to determine the child's fright

Birth child not only a great joy for parents, but alsogreat responsibility, trouble. After all, even a healthy, normally developed baby at first is completely helpless and defenseless, it is constantly necessary to take care of it. Moreover, in the first period of his life, the only way to communicate with adults is to cry. And parents often find it hard to understand why a baby cries: because of hunger, because it is wet, it's cold or hot. Maybe he's something got scared.

Instructions

Increased fearfulness of the baby can manifest itself invarious forms. For example, night terrors, sometimes reaching nightmares. Their signs: the child suddenly wakes up with a loud cry, looks around fearfully, it does not immediately succeed in appeasing him, even taking him in his arms. Any attempt to put him back in the crib, especially, leave, leaving him alone in the room, the baby meets with a new cry, screams. If parents do not take measures to stop nighttime fears (such as "nothing, scream, cry, get used to it"), then child can come a persistent disorder of sleep, a deterioration in appetite, there will be a sense of shattering, constant fatigue. In the most severe cases, it can reach a nervous breakdown.

Very often frightened child is expressed in the fear of loneliness. Many parents are familiar with this situation: the kid raises a desperate howl as soon as he is left alone, even in the daytime and for a short time. It comes to the real hysteria. The reasons for this fright are different: the features of the child's physiological and mental development, mistakes in upbringing (too much accustomed to the hands), etc.

The child is often frightened of loud sounds. Simply because he is not yet able to connect the cause and effect, and does not understand that the sound of a working vacuum cleaner or meat grinder does not conceal any danger, danger. The kid understands only one thing: something terribly roared. It must be some terrible monster. Determine such a fright is very simple: the child with every loud sound, heard in the house or on the street, jerks violently, begins to cry.

Children are also often frightened of dogs. Alas, neither the owners of the smaller brothers, nor parents often even try to put themselves in the place of the baby. Moreover, sometimes the parents themselves bring the baby to the dog: "She's good, kind, she will not bite!" And how can a child know that, at the level of his face, there suddenly appeared a fanged jaw? In fact to the small child even the decorative little dog will seem huge. Such fright is also easily determined: the baby shudders, cries when he heard a dog barking. And at the sight of the dog, he may even begin hysterics.

Tip 2: How to frighten a baby

Unfortunately, children's fears are one of the mostwidespread phenomena of modern society. To frighten a defenseless child is easy: for example, a baby may be afraid of sharp sounds, appearance of a person, etc. Often, children are frightened of certain natural phenomena of a spontaneous nature. All would be fine, but only a strong childish fright sometimes leads to the development of serious disruptions in the child's nervous system that provoke certain ailments (for example, stuttering and enuresis).

You can remove the fright in the baby in various ways

Removal of fright in a baby. Folk ways

A frightened baby should be picked up, pressedto yourself and pat on the back. It is not superfluous to sing to the child some quiet melody or just to talk gently with him. Of course, the infant will not understand the entire adult's spoken language, but will feel the care and attention to himself. The child will be able to understand and realize that he is safe, that his mother and father are next to him. Calm emotional state of parents will soon be transmitted to their child - the child will gradually begin to calm down. In addition, it is recommended to make the baby a warm soothing bath with the addition of sea salt, valerian and motherwort. This must be done so that the baby can relax before going to bed. It is recommended to drink off the frightened baby with tea on the basis of the motherwort, and at night give a few drops of valerian: moments of unreasonable anxiety and severe stress will gradually give way to a healthy sleep. Over time, the fright of the baby should go on its own, but if this did not happen, then urgently need to see a doctor.

Removal of fright in a baby. Plot on the water

Removing the fright in a baby with the help of one or anotherThe rituals are quite popular and are being successfully practiced nowadays. For example, one of the rituals is the water that is locked up. To do this, it is necessary to fill a glass with cold spring water or church water, and then say a conspiracy: "Thin thought, fall away from the servant of God (baby's name), from his hands, from his feet, to the stormy head of his head. Go to the wind, yes forever with (baby's name) and never come back. Amen". Reading conspiracy must be accompanied by the baptism of water in a glass. Then the put water is put in a warm place to reach room temperature. When the water reaches the desired condition, it will be possible to wipe the baby's body. In addition, it is recommended to give him a drink of this water. Attention, this rite can only be carried out if the child has already been baptized. Otherwise, such a conspiracy simply does not work.

Removal of fright in a baby. Casting wax

Casting wax on a baby's fright is one of thethe most famous rituals. To conduct it, pour cool water into a glass, and then melt a little wax in a tablespoon. The ceremony is conducted as follows: a glass with water should be kept over the baby's head, slowly pouring into the cold water the wax that is in the spoon. This action is accompanied by the reading of a conspiracy: "I pour out frights, I remove the commotion from the relics and small bones of my child, from his veins and from the podzhelochek, from a restless heart, from a red blood-stream, and from a violent head (baby's name). So be it. Amen. "Attention, if the baby's fright does not have a specific reason and an obvious reason, then one should not eliminate it on their own, relying on esoteric rituals and rituals, as well as on popular methods of treatment and campaigns for quacks. In this case, there will be only one way out of the situation: a trip to a pediatrician who will write a referral to the appropriate specialist (for example, a neurologist).

Tip 3: How to treat fright

Used to cure a child or an impressionablean adult from fright was a matter of simple, though not all, available. Fright spoke "grandmothers", cast on wax, read prayers to the Blessed Virgin. In modern medicine, there is no such diagnosis as fright. But this does not mean that she can not cure him. Simply what was formerly called a fright, is now diagnosed as a different phobia.

Help the child learn how to cope with their fears

You will need

Patience
Attention to the problems of the child
Readiness to seek help

Instructions

First of all, be patient. Overcoming fears can take several months or even years. And let it seems to you for a long time that your child should already "outgrow", remember that fears are irrational and do not use calendars.

If the child is frightened of an animal or an insect, start slowly to accustom it to the idea that they are not as dangerous as they once seemed to him.

First draw a sketchy cat figure,a dog or a spider. Ask the child to portray the "offender" himself. Gradually from the sketchy drawings go to realistic. Then start looking at the pictures.

When the child is ready for the next step,show the terrible animal on the video. Then look at him from a safe distance, through some kind of barrier. For example, through glass. Then through the open door.

Never rush a child, do not put pressure on him. Be close at all times and at any time you can hide for you. And, perhaps, one day the kid will stroke the cat or dog.

More serious phobias should be treated by specialists. Symptoms of severe phobias are dizziness, sweating, shortness of breath, vomiting, heart palpitations. If your child is afraid of something "before vomiting," immediately consult a child psychotherapist.

At different ages, it is normal to be afraid of certainof things. Up to two years, strangers, strange objects, loud noises can scare children. In six years, usually afraid of monsters, ghosts and fairy villains. This is just such fears that can pass by themselves. After seven years, the child can be frightened by natural disasters and catastrophes.

Fear of school, public speaking, microbescan develop into serious social phobia. Do not dismiss them, do not abuse the child. Teach him the simplest method of relaxation, find out how serious his fear is at a 10-point school. Do not simplify the problems of the child, do not say that this is nonsense. Show that you are serious about him, ready to listen to him and help him.