Tip 1: How often does an only child grow up in a family?
Tip 1: How often does an only child grow up in a family?
Psychological scientists have long discovered that the order of birth and the total number of children in the family affect their character. The upbringing of the only child has its own characteristics.
What an only child extracts from a family relationship
One of the main mistakes in educationthe only child in the family - the desire to surround him with excessive care and protect from any trouble. Despite the initially good intentions, this situation has a number of sad consequences. But a child is a future adult who will need to be able to exist in this world on his own. An inadequate degree of care leads to the formation of a child's learned helplessness when he drops his hands before the slightest embarrassment. Then parents come willingly to help, leaving the child no chance to think about the situation on their own. As a man, such a person parasitizes on stronger and independent personalities. He transfers to them all responsibility for his own life, because he does not know how to exist in another way. Often such people are capricious and demanding, because they are accustomed to their privileged position in the family.Single children often become skilled manipulators, benefiting from their position.Sometimes in adolescence such childrenbegin to protest against inadequate care, which radically changes the situation. This stimulates the development of frontal lobes, responsible for planning and forecasting skills. In this case, the child has all chances to enter adulthood adapted to an independent life.
Features of social adaptation
Fear of a single child can lead tohis social isolation. Parents will prefer to leave the child in their reach, than to send a walk with their peers. For children unsure of themselves, this is a particularly fatal error that can make them outcasts in a children's team. Not acquiring the skills of communication with other children in time, such a child later begins to avoid interaction. In adulthood, poor socialization brings serious problems. The modern world requires communication skills and knowledge of human psychology, the victim of the same social isolation does not own this and is often afraid to try.Parent expectations regarding a singlechildren are often overestimated. They encourage him to be the best in everything. After such a person, a lifetime will be inadequate to perceive failure, feeling guilty for inconsistency with expectations.Being mainly in the circle of adultsstimulates early speech development, vocabulary is often saturated with complex concepts that are not consistent with years. This fact influences mental development in principle. Often such children have many creative hobbies, and in adulthood they choose a creative profession.
Tip 2: What it means to love blindly
Love does not arise in the heart, as they thinklovers, but in the head. The part of the brain (the frontal lobe) that controls logical thinking disconnects. And the person is blinded by love. He does not notice the shortcomings of a loved one.
Optical illusion
Scientists have found out that they love not their heart but their head. During love in the brain, there are some changes. First of all, the functions that are responsible for the analysis of visual perception are violated. Love dazzles a man. The lover is very happy. The world looks through rose-colored glasses. This is because a new area of the brain opens - a zone of love and euphoria. And that portion (the frontal lobe) that controls logical thinking is disconnected. Because of this, the lover does not notice the deficiencies of a loved one. The level of dopamine rises - the hormone of pleasure and satisfaction. Therefore, to abandon love experiences is very difficult.Love affection
Studying the causes of love blindness, specialistsfound that the mother's love for the child and the romantic feeling are of the same nature. With one exception. Romantic love, unlike the mother's, is accompanied by sexual attraction. It is caused by the active activity of the hypothalamus. The department of the brain that regulates the excitement. When the sexual attraction loses its sharpness, the enamored man becomes aware. The maternal love that has been weakening over the years does not die away. Changes in the cerebral cortex gradually become irreversible. Such love destroys the psyche of a woman.Victims of maternal love
If the mother does not see in her child separatelya person who deserves respect and understanding, she loves blindly. Her child can not become an independent, adult personality. Build your happy life. Often blindly, single mothers love children. They give birth to them "for themselves." Boys are brought up by "mama's sons", girls are ardent feminists. Trusted mothers are blinded by love. In a family, such a woman is the main authority. She runs a weak-spirited husband and "obedient" children. Having escaped to freedom, the grown up children embark on all the hard. Sometimes mothers who failed to realize their dreams and hopes, try to translate them into children. This is how blind parental love manifests itself, depriving the child of the right to choose. There are "kind" mothers who do not raise a child, but blindly fulfill his desires and moods. Encourage any antics. A child, spoiled by attention and gifts, grows selfish.Tip 3: How to find out that the left-handed child
Modern education conditions are not designed forleft-handed children: lighting from windows and the arrangement of desks in the classroom, methodical recommendations for teaching letters - all designed and organized for the world of right-handed people. Teachers do not retrain a first-grader who writes with his left hand, are patient with his characteristics, but they can not always create the most favorable conditions for teaching such children.
You will need
- - tests to determine the left-handedness of the preschooler;
- - paper, pencils for drawing.
Instructions
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Assess the child's inclination to left-handedness: whether there are left-handed people in the family or among the next of kin. The more such people, the more likely that the child will manifest this feature too.
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Observe the baby: what hand he is trying to get a toy, fingers of which hand most often takes in the mouth. At this age can not yet be manifested acquired left-handedness, but genetic features can already be observed.
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Trace the characteristics of feeding the baby. If the mother most often feeds the child with the right breast, then his left hand is pressed for a long time to her body and remains inactive. If we take into account the peculiarities of suckling a child - eating for a long time, without hurrying up, then the time of the grip of the hand increases. The formation of left-handedness is the most possible.
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Do not worry if up to 3-4 years old child can not decide on the use of the leadinghands - this is normal for younger preschoolers. Their tendency to be explorers makes use of the uniform and right, and left hand, or even two, at the same time.
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Test the child using a series oftasks to determine not only the leading hand, but also the leading, more active hemisphere of the brain, because left-handedness - is the result of precisely the physiological characteristics of man. With their help, you can determine the category of the child: right hemisphere or left hemisphere. For a left-handed baby, it is more likely to obtain indicators indicating activity in the right hemisphere.
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Invite the child to draw the same image alternately with the right or left hand. The result is estimated not by the speed of execution of the drawing, but by the result: by the leading hand child Draws more slowly, but more precisely.
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Offer to fulfill at least 4-5 tasks:- fold your hands in the castle; the left upper finger will point to left-handedness - clap your hands so that one palm is at the bottom and the other at the top - twist your arms over your chest and see which hand is outside - aim at the target for shooting from a child's pistol: open left eye. More results will indicate the leading left arm, the more likely it is that child - left-handed.
