How to punish a child correctly
How to punish a child correctly
With the advent and growth of a child, parentsface many problems. Among them is how to respond to a child's violation of the rules established in the family. How should one respond to the child's bad behavior and how to ensure that in the future the child behaves as his parents need?
Most often in such situations, parentsguided by their own experiences, recalling the methods of educating their parents, tested on them. But, unfortunately, there are no universal methods of upbringing. There is no single recipe that allows you to correct the behavior of any child. It is certainly true that the child's wrong behavior should meet an adequate response from the parents. Otherwise, the child will get used to the feeling of impunity and permissiveness, and in the future problems with the behavior of the child in society will only grow, like the snow coma. Modern teachers and psychologists fully agree that physical punishment is the most useless and even harmful. Useless - because physical sensations are quickly forgotten, especially unpleasant. Harmful - as with frequent use, they turn against the goals pursued by the parent, punishing. Such a child easily closes in himself, there is a feeling of anger at the whole world. The most severe punishment for a child is parental silence. Or it can be called a kind of boycott. The child is much easier to bear abuse, screaming and slapping in a soft place, rather than silence. The silence of the adult leaves the child alone, he is experiencing a sea of emotions at that moment, but there is no place to throw them out, because he does not receive a response. The parent then needs to remain completely calm. But you can not delay this punishment. A few minutes of the child is often enough to realize the full gravity of his situation. After that, the parent should sit with the child and calmly talk, explain why he was so punished, what feelings mom or dad feels when the child behaves badly and forces him to punish him. It is important to emphasize that it is unpleasant for parents to punish, and that the child is in itself good and the most beloved for them, but they simply can not ignore a concrete deed without attention. After such a conversation, the reconciliation of the parties must necessarily follow. And to remember the child's past sins is never necessary. He was already punished for them and forgiven.
