How to arrange a wake
How to arrange a wake
Traditional Orthodox commemoration of the deadis committed on the third, ninth, fortieth day. Then, an annual commemoration is held on the day of death. In all memorial days it is necessary to conduct a special ritual that helps the deceased to move from the material world to the spiritual world. The church believes that until the fortieth day the soul is between the worlds. The third funeral day is a funeral, the ninth day is a prayer for the peace of the soul, the ritual of the forties is the seeing-off to eternity.
You will need
- - Memorial prayer rite on the grave;
- - a prayer ceremony in the church;
- - charity;
- - a funeral dinner.
Instructions
1
On the third day, when the funeral takes place, everyone who wants will come. Usually friends, relatives, acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors come. In general, all those who knew the deceased.
2
After the funeral, organize wake. Put on the memorial table kutya from cerealsor millet with raisins, honey or sugar, pancakes, jelly, soup noodles with chicken, second course, sweets, cookies, apples. Everyone leaving with the funeral feast, give us candy, biscuits and a handkerchief.
3
On the ninth and fortieth day, invite onlythe closest relatives of the deceased. Bring flowers and wreaths do not enter into the house, install them immediately in the cemetery. Be sure to invite a priest to make a memorial prayer. To do this, attach the icon of the Savior to the gravestone. The icon should not be next to a photograph of the deceased, so if you are installing a photo, then fasten it on the fence.
4
After visiting the cemetery, order a ritual commemoration in the church. Put the candles behind the repose. Give to all the poor and miserable. You can serve cookies, sweets and, if possible, material means.
5
Memorial prayers and alms - this is the mostthe main ritual, performed on the ninth day and the fortieth. A funeral dinner should be prepared from simple dishes. Do not put any delicacies on the table. Obligatory dishes are kutya from cereals or grains with raisins, pancakes and jelly or compote. All other dishes can be put at your discretion.
6
Alcoholic drinks help the living to softenpain of loss, but their use has nothing to do with the funeral rite. The use of vodka at memorial meals came from pagan rites, so you can put alcohol or not put on the table, this church does not prohibit, but does not approve.
7
If you remember a man who neverlife did not believe in God and did not go to the Temple, still hold memorial prayers and rituals. This will help the "lost" soul to calm down and move from one dimension to another. Pray for an unbaptized and unbelieving person at home, as the ROC does not conduct rituals for the burial and commemoration of unbaptized and suicides.
8
After the ritual commemoration you must keepmemory in your soul, systematically visit the grave in the parental days. It does not matter how rich you make the decoration of the grave, the main thing is that it always be cleaned and prayer rites of remembrance are performed on it.
