How to behave when you are discussed
How to behave when you are discussed
The nature of man is such that he simplyYou need to communicate with other people, share emotions and impressions with them, talk about events and interesting people. But what if you were the target for discussion?
Instructions
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Any discussion can be both positive,both negative and negative. People often talk about the success of their friends, but even more often talk about them or share rumors. Of course, any opinion of people, especially those expressed behind them, can be frustrating. After all, it usually happens very far from the truth, which is actually from the opinion of the person being discussed. However, any behavior has its own reasons and it will be necessary to find out if you want to stop discussing your personality.
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When you are uncomfortable talking about you and suchDiscussion, the most reliable means is to directly tell the person about it, to find out the reason for such conversations. Perhaps, other people for some reason are unhappy with your behavior or attitude. Maybe you offended them, and they do not dare to tell you about it. So they found a peculiar way of revenge. The reasons for this can be very much, the main thing here is to find them out and talk to people frankly. Behave calmly, kindly, do not try to expose yourself in the best light. You need to listen to the opinion of the person and find a quiet answer for him, which would lead to the solution of the problem.
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And then you can act on the circumstances. Probably, you will be surprised by the cause of discontent, but still apologize to the offended and explain your behavior. In most cases, this should lead to reconciliation, especially if you sincerely desire it. Perhaps you will even have to explain your motivations to a group of people, but you need to find the strength to do this in order to establish relationships.
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But even if reconciliation did not happen, orA person is simply pleasant to discuss you behind your back, talk nastiness, if his resentment does not work for you - you will know that they did their best on their part. If the person's behavior is already on his conscience, you do not have to suffer in conjecture, you can just stop communicating with this subject. This is a good way even in the event that discussions of your personality are being conducted to spite you. Do not pay any attention to them, neither such people nor their evil thoughts are worth your dignity and peace.
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But what can not be done in this situation - soIt is to adopt the model of behavior of such people and begin to discuss them. In such actions there is no sense or dignity, and you will quickly turn into those whose behavior has been blamed so recently. In the end, is it worth it to waste energy and nerves on those who use such low methods and even more like them?
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However, not only your negativeSide and misses, but also successes. And although some people are unpleasant even such a manifestation of attention, you do not need to reproach those who praise you. Thank them and persuade to try not so actively. And rejoice for yourself and at least start to be proud.
