Tip 1: How to resolve the conflict
Tip 1: How to resolve the conflict
Every day in the world millions of people quarrel in allcorners of our planet. Especially dangerous quarrels between spouses. Such quarrels can go so far that the husband and his wife can for the time being cool down or even divorce. And if the witnesses to these conflicts are their children? Such events can lead to serious consequences.
Instructions
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The first thing you need to establish the cause of quarrels,arising in the family. It may be different views on the upbringing of children, the management of the family budget, the organization of recreation and much more. Also, couples often quarrel because of a misunderstanding. Another common cause of family quarrels is the inconsistency of the "biological clocks" of individual family members. Owls with larks do not always get along together. However, whatever causes of quarrels may be serious, an escalating conflict can always be settled through concessions, compromises and constructive solutions to family problems. Follow a number of rules and in most cases you can avoid conflict in the family.
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Do not succumb to any desire for anythingprove or show your selfishness. Stupid obstinacy is also extremely undesirable, even more unacceptable. In addition, do not raise the tone of the voice during an argument, because screaming can only be ignited by the scandal, but not extinguished. And do not let your emotions come out, stay calm.
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Do not involve others in your quarrel, be itfriends or even relatives. Conflict of spouses is only their business, therefore you risk to spoil relations with the half, asking for help "from outside".
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In front of children to find out their relationship strictlyit is contraindicated. After all, they may develop an incorrect pattern of behavior with adults, including with you. This can cause emotional trauma.
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Do not remember old grievances, do not come up with problems from nothing either. This will only complicate your relationship and pour oil on the fire of your conflict.
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Just sit down and talk with your partner. Discuss, both express your vision of the problem and possible solutions. So you can unite and resolve the conflict together.
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And two more short, but important advice: It is sometimes necessary to listen first to the spouse who considers himself offended and stricken. And never lose your sense of humor. Remember that sarcasm and wit still have not been seriously disturbed.
Tip 2: How to resolve the conflict with parents
Fathers and children often argue among themselves. The clash of interests is present in almost all such relationships, but it is important that the conflict does not drag out and interfere with the lives of the participants. Correct communication will help smooth out contradictions, reach a compromise.
The reason for the misunderstanding between the senior and juniora generation can be any little thing, but sometimes serious circumstances arise. In any case, it is necessary to properly assess the situation, bring to the opposite side your position, and listen to their arguments.
Why parents go to the conflict
Most of the problems in relationships arise because ofprohibitions. The older generation limits the younger in desires, actions and means. Having more experience, they understand that the actions of young people are not promising, not real, or even dangerous for life and health. Of course, both sides can be mistaken, but one must understand that experience is a lot. If parents do not give consent to something, it is necessary to analyze why this happens. It may seem that they do it out of harm, but in fact there are more compelling reasons. For example, they understand that some actions are dangerous. Sometimes they realize that forces and money will be wasted, and that something will not work out, and sometimes they have a presentiment of trouble. Imagine yourself in their place, analyze what they manage. Find out what the fears or limitations are pushing them into conflict. You can ask your father and mother to explain to you the reason for their discontent, but be ready to listen to them calmly, and not to go to a shout or resentment. Usually they are ready to provide a detailed answer, but not every child can hear and understand it. But it is this knowledge that helps to come to a compromise.How to eliminate conflict
The very first and effective to eliminateconflict, this recognition is that you were wrong. Even if you do not think so, say it out loud anyway. Sometimes it will even be appropriate to apologize if earlier you have said too much. Such actions will force adults to listen and your arguments. And start them reasonably explaining what you want, why you do not fulfill their requirements, and what results you are waiting for. If the conflict is due to lack of harvesting, then you simply can not find the reasons that will justify you, and admitting you will have to watch the order. If you want to go somewhere, and you do not let go, you will need to tell what the journey is, with whom it is, which guarantees your safety. Since you know the claims of the parents, you heard them, all your words will be directed to reduce their anxiety, reduce anxiety. Find an excuse for all their fears. Be persuasive, and do not raise your voice. Speak about the fact that solving this issue affects your self-esteem, your successes in life, your relationships with your friends. But do not press on pity, but ascertain the facts. A restrained and sensible conversation is a sign of adult communication. Parents will see that you are capable of such communication, that you can answer for your words, that you control the behavior, and this will help to solve the problem.Tip 3: How to behave if a conflict arose
Conflicts arise in our lives quite often. In order for the conflict not to have destructive consequences, try to observe some rules of behavior in a conflict situation.
Let the partner "let off steam." If the opponent is extremely irritated and aggressive, thenagree and solve the problem you will not succeed. Try to calm down and isolate a little. Let him scream, try to hurt you, then you completely ignore his attempts to bring you to negative emotions.
Justify your claims. After the partner calms down, explainhim, that you will only consider facts and objective evidence. If the partner tries to reconnect emotions, calmly explain that his arguments relate to his guesses, and not to the facts.
Reduce aggression with unexpected techniques. Ask for advice from your opponent, ask an unexpected question, make a compliment. Do not give the partner negative assessments, but try to translate his emotions into positive ones.
Ask them to formulate the desired final result. Invite the opponent to formulate the problem anddesired final result. Together, make several solutions to the problem and find a solution that suits you both. When resolving a conflict, both of you must be winners.
Do not demean your partner. Do not hurt his dignity, do not affect his personality. Do not evaluate a person, but only his actions. Be with your opponent on equal terms.
Tip 4: What if the conflict with the teacher
Dissatisfaction with schoolchild assessments, poor attitudeteacher to the child in the classroom are the causes of conflict between parents and teachers. Cope with such situations is sometimes so difficult that without solving the problem, you have to change not only the school, but also the place of residence. Meanwhile, you can solve the problem without resorting to serious changes in the student's life.
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Clearly understand the causes of the conflict: perhaps you are not evaluating the situation correctly. Check your child's knowledge on your own, it is possible that you will need the help of another teacher who teaches the same subject, but at another school. Ask him to work with your child and objectively evaluate the knowledge.
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Be sure to attend all parent meetings andask your questions to the teacher. Do not inflate the conflict from scratch. Be extremely tactful and polite. Do not take coordinated decisions, do not rush to complain about the teacher to the principal of the school.
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Start your actions by discussing the situation withthe parent committee. Give your arguments and listen to the opinion of the majority. If your assumptions are justified, you have found enough facts, take decisive action. Do not delay. But remember that in any case, any punishment should be justified.
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Decide what exactly you want to achieve,resolving the conflict with the teacher. Sometimes it is enough that the teacher simply apologized. But this happens rarely because of the principles of not only one, but also the other. In no case do not tune the child against the teacher, or even better, if the student remains aloof from the conflict.
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In higher instances, contact only if,when the situation was not solved by any of the proposed methods. Transfer the child to another school only with the hopelessness of the situation. A highly qualified teacher will never allow the conflict to grow, especially if he values his place and position in society.
