Scheme of the conversation
Scheme of the conversation
Are you not strong in the colloquial genre? With relatives and friends communicate easily and with pleasure, and in an unfamiliar company are lost? You have to study or work in a new team, and you are afraid that your shyness will not allow you to get along with fellow students or colleagues? Then these tips for you. To strike up a conversation with a stranger, you just have to follow the proposed scheme.
Instructions
1
Catch the look of the person who interested you,smile, nod your head - this will replace the greeting. The smile should be easy, simple, pleasant - to what not binding. Practice in front of the mirror.
2
Start a conversation with a simple phrase, neutral, nottoo personal, but called from the very beginning to show your interest in this person, for example: "What do you drink?", "Do you also like the products of this company?", "I thought I knew all the friends of the birthday girl ..."
3
Before touching on a specific topic in theconversation, it is appropriate to make a cautious compliment - not broken and unobtrusive. It will have to be selected on the spot, depending on the situation, appearance and character of a particular person. It is not proper to make specific compliments about clothes and figures, but you can say: "You are so romantic in this dress!", "You are very much going to this tie!", "You have such an elegant (unusual) bracelet!", "You are so charming smile! "
4
Try to find common interests. Just a short but attentive look at the interlocutor can give a lot of topics for conversation. In appearance you can judge whether this person is provided, what his taste is, whether he is engaged in sports, relaxed or constrained ... From the first words it is clear how clever a person is and how confident he is. The person you are interested in can have a folder with documents, a laptop or an expensive phone. All this - the reasons for the beginning of the conversation, topics that will help to find common points of interest. Did not find interesting for both topics? Switch to general: discuss the latest events, news, weather whims, novelties in movies, music, books. But remember, discussions of religion, politics, crimes and disasters must be avoided.
5
After that, you can turn to more personal topics: work, hobbies, hobbies, a personal car, travel. These topics will help to start a full-fledged conversation, and not just throw a couple of phrases.
6
Always keep a few originalquestions - they will help fill a pause in the conversation or move it to another channel. This can be a funny or hypothetical question, for example: "In what do you see the imperfection of mankind?"
