What to do if the child is jealous
What to do if the child is jealous
Children are often jealous of the appearance ofthe kid in the house, especially if the age difference is small. Until recently, the child was the only one, and all the love and affection came to him. With the appearance of the baby in the house, especially if he is restless, almost all attention passes to him. The elder feels insulted, it seems to him that his mother began to love less.
Prepare an older child for the appearance of a baby inthe house should be in advance. If you are visited by friends familiar with young children, take the baby in your arms, play with it. Tell the eldest that he will soon have a brother or sister. If you decide to move the older child to another room, then do it in advance, i.e. before the appearance of the baby in the house. A child should not feel that he was "evicted" because his mother now has another baby. When you change your newborn, ask the elder to help you: for example, give a diaper, cap. Show that the baby has small pens, legs, he defenseless, explain that he himself does not know how to do anything. You can emphasize the advantages of adult seniority, who can eat something that is not yet a baby, swing on a swing, watch cartoons. When buying something for a kid, be sure to buy some little thing for the older child. Do not forbid the older one to touch the baby, but only in your presence, emphasizing what kind of baby is an attentive and caring brother (sister). Walking with the baby, take the eldest child with you. Ask him to help you drive the wheelchair, shake it, if the baby cried. Praise the child, saying what a good helper he is, and how proud you are of him. When you put the baby to bed, let the elder put the doll or a soft toy. While the baby is sleeping, read the older book, play a game. The child will know that his mother still loves him.
