Tip 1: The child is afraid of the dark
Tip 1: The child is afraid of the dark
Many parents are concerned that their childafraid of the dark, because such fear is common among children aged 3-7 years. If you notice that the child began to be afraid of the dark, it is necessary to take urgent measures and identify the causes of such fear.
Instructions
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Remember that the child should trust you. If he addressed this problem to you, you should treat him with understanding and promise him your help in the fight against fear. Your child must understand that you will always come to his aid, and he, in turn, will receive your protection.
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Think of a character or something,which is able to protect the child. For example, think of a superhero who comes to the rescue, or an object that will also protect the child. For example, these may be glasses that will make your child invisible to everyone.
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To date, a common causefears are movies, video games with cruelty, violence and paranormal phenomena. Try to shield your child as much as possible from access to such games and films.
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Design a room with night lamps or lamps. It is obvious - if the child is afraid of the dark, it is necessary to dilute the darkness with light. After the child falls asleep, the light sources can be turned off.
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Pay attention to your own behavior and the atmosphere in the family. Often happens that because of quarrels and scandals the child develops various fears, among which is the fear of the dark.
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Do not scold your child for his fears, because in the future he simply will not share his fears with you, which will negatively affect his development.
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Do not laugh at his fears, because in this matter he needs your support and understanding more than ever.
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If the child sees ghosts, vampires or other monsters in the dark, do not play up to him and do not say that you see them too, because that's how you will root the realization that they exist.
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Be aware that in the situation of fears, the rule "wedge-shaped wedge" does not work. Treating the fear of darkness with the help of darkness is dangerous.
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As practice shows, conversations in such cases will not help, because your child still does not take everything that you tell him.
Tip 2: What to do if a child is afraid of the dark
Children are characterized by fears, they have already reconciled themselves to thisdozens of generations of parents. Many of them do not even think that the baby is born absolutely fearless. If you observe newborn children, you can notice a lot of evidence to this. The newborn is not afraid of darkness and loneliness, he has no fear of animals and the future. Each kid comes into this world with a brave heart. It is we, adults, who make him cowardly and weak.
Instructions
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Fears, however painful it is to recognize, we invitein the children's souls we are. We do this in different ways, mostly because of good intentions. It seems to us that if the kid knows that there is a danger and that it is necessary to be afraid of it, it will allow him to avoid it. Sometimes we consciously, but more often than not, out of habit, not giving an account of our words and actions, intimidating fearless kids, telling about non-existent evil characters, teaching his imagination to draw terrible images, constantly supplying new associations and one more terrifying descriptions.
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But to make sure that in the soul of the child neverno fear of a dark room, it's very simple. It is enough to exclude from the dialogue any forms of intimidation by both real characters and fictional heroes. In addition, you should very carefully introduce the baby to cartoons, especially those that are difficult to call sweet and kind. In no case should the child be punished, leaving one in a large and dark room. Darkness should not be associated with something unpleasant and unfriendly.
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Adhering to such simple rules, you cancompletely exclude from the life of the child a stage of fear of darkness. If the fear has already taken its place in the heart of the child, the experience of overcoming it can become a practice for the child to work on itself, and success will increase confidence in oneself. Parents' position in the process of overcoming children's fears is very important. In no case should you laugh at childish fears, blame the kid for cowardice and tease him. The child should know that parents, although they do not believe in the existence of danger in a dark room, support him in their efforts to overcome fear, are always ready to give him a helping hand.
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Before you start actively fighting fear,parents should first of all make sure that the child walks quite a lot on the street during the day, he has an adequate physical load, he eats rationally, and a nursery or another room in which the baby sleeps, clean, comfortable and well ventilated. Sometimes enough adjust the child's day schedule so that he immediately falls asleep, finding himself in bed. Then he will not have time for fears and emotions.
Tip 3: How to make a child sleep at night
During the day, parents are very tired at work, so at night not averse to a good night's sleep before the new difficultin the afternoon. However, a child can sometimes interfere with these plans - he can not sleep, which means he can not sleep with adults. If there is such a problem, it should be solved as soon as possible, because lack of sleep can badly affect the health of the child.
Instructions
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Determine why the child does not want to sleep. Perhaps he just can not fall asleep. It can have a variety of reasons. The main one is the child goes to bed in a restless, excited state. This happens if the child plays mobile games before going to bed, is too active, watches a lot of television. In this case, minimize the activity of the child in the evenings. Do not let him run and jump, let him do something quiet - he reads, draws, listens to a fairy tale. All active activities should be moved to an earlier time - if the baby runs into the day, jumps up and plays, then most likely, he will sleep as if he were killed.
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Watch your baby's diet. Do not overfeed it before bedtime. Dinner should be at least four hours before bedtime and should not be too dense. If the baby asks for food, and it's too late, let him drink a glass of kefir or chew on an apple. A full stomach does not promote fast falling asleep.
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If the child does not want to fall asleep, because he is afraiddarkness and loneliness, help him to fight his fears. There is nothing wrong with that, for example, you will leave the night light on - the child will not be so scared, monsters will not disturb him. If a child is afraid of some terrible creature that can get out of the darkness, then it is possible to arrange a ritual of expelling this being. Convince the child that his monster has gone and will not return, and he will be much more comfortable to sleep. The first time you can stay in the room with the child until he falls asleep, and then he learns to fall asleep on his own without any fear. You can give your child with him in bed some soft toy, which will be his "protector" from everything bad.
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Consult a doctor if your child is not afraid of the dark, before going to bed does not play mobile games, and you follow all the recommendations. Perhaps in the body there are some violations.
Tip 4: How to overcome fears in children
It is difficult to find a person who never felt fear in childhood. Children's fears - a widespread phenomenon, theyare found in every child, appearing in a variety of objects and phenomena. The causes of childhood fears lie in different things, and in this article we will consider the main of these reasons, as well as ways that will help children fight fears with their parents.
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Often there are fearscaused by the dangerous situation that causedthe child is a strong fright. If the baby is once very afraid of the dog, then the dog can become the object of his fear for many years. It depends on you whether the child will be able to cope with the fear, or it will turn into a stable phobia, which will pass with the child into the adult state.
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Also often occur fears, which the child created in his own imagination, believing in the existence of invented objects. In addition, children are sometimes transferred fears and fears of their own parents, who often frighten childrento relieve them of any disorders and injuries.
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Never frighten a kid - let him explore the world around him boldly and openly. If the child strikes or burns, it will pass, but will give him invaluable experience.
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A newborn child experiences a feelinganxiety, fear and anxiety, when he does not feel the presence of his mother next to him. In addition, children respond well to the internal state and mood of the mother, and if the mother is anxious, the child will also experience unpleasant sensations. In two or three years the child can be afraid of the dark, as well as pain, punishment, loneliness.
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When a child grows up to three or four years, hecan be afraid of imaginary characters living in his imagination. At the age of six and preschool age, children can begin to fear death by learning about it from adults.
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The task of parents is to gently and skillfully help the childto cope with fears. Together with the baby, think up a fairy tale about the thing that he is afraid of. Let the child himself propose the development of the plot, describe the main character - himself, and the secondary one - the object of his fear. The fairy tale must end with the victory of the protagonist over fear.
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Invite the child to draw his own fear orTo represent it from plasticine, a color paper or the designer. The child with the help of creativity can visualize fear, give him a name, and then destroy - break the collected figure or tear and burn the paper with a picture. Praise the child for bravery and resourcefulness, let him know that he is stronger than his own fear.
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Be frank with the child - if he is afraid to portray his fear on paper, tell him that you were also afraid of some things when you were young.
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To distract a child from anxiety can be through music, singing and dancing, as well as using a toy-mascot, with which the baby will feel safe.
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Teach your child how to deal with any fear -the kid must learn to laugh at the objects of his fear, so that they disappear. Ask the child to draw fear on a sheet of paper, and then paint him a crown, pigtails, bows, funny nose or horns.
