Tip 1: How to tell your child about pregnancy
Tip 1: How to tell your child about pregnancy
Message that the family is expected to replenish- a joy for most of its members, except for the older child. The situation is not simple, especially if a second baby is expected. The appearance of the third junior family member is much calmer.
You will need
- Pregnancy, child.
Instructions
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Do not rush with the announcement of replenishing yourfamily, if the firstborn is still small enough. Learning that he will soon have a brother or sister, the baby will be nervous, waiting for something incomprehensible. Children are poorly oriented in time, so waiting for many months can have a bad effect on the character of the first-born. Postpone the explanation until the time when the tummy appears. And so that the child does not suffer from anticipation, immediately make clear about the date of birth. It is desirable that date to coincide with the event, which is already familiar to your child. Older children can already tell you that you are not feeling well. And that the first-born did not worry about your health, you need to explain that this is normal while waiting for a brother or sister.
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Do not kid the kid, but nota real scenario of the future. Do not mislead your child, saying that the little one will play with him, love him. After you return from the hospital, the firstborn can be very disappointed. Immediately tell about what difficulties you are expected. Explain that the baby will constantly need care and care, will take up a lot of your time. But make a reservation that these changes will not affect the attitude to the older child, you just can not pay him the same attention as now.
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As often as possible, talk about the appearance of the youngest child in the family. If you have friends with two children, where the second child has appeared recently.
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While walking with a child, pay attention to the younger children. let him see what they are helpless, how they need care. If the first-born is a girl, then you can play with her in your mother's daughters.
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When you prepare a dowry for the futurebaby, bring a shopping firstborn, that he did not feel himself relegated to the sidelines. Let the older child help to prepare a room for a future brother / sister. Also, it is not superfluous to attract a baby to your collections in the hospital.
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When you return from the hospital, celebrate the daybirth of a new member of the family, but do not forget to prepare a gift for the first-born. That your older child does not feel left, let him take care of the younger. Only it is not necessary to insist that the first-born do not feel obligated.
Tip 2: How to tell your son about pregnancy
Often it is easier to tell about pregnancy to adults,than children. Fearing the reaction of the child, adults can not decide for a long time to report the joyful news or do not know how to make the child correctly perceive the future event.
Instructions
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First of all, before telling your son aboutsecond pregnancy, you need to take into account the age of the first-born. If the child is small, it is better to wait with an explanation, otherwise it will be long enough to wait for something incomprehensible, to be nervous. It is more correct to postpone the news of pregnancy until the situation becomes noticeable. When the baby already knows about the upcoming birth, it is better for him to relate the date of birth of a brother or sister to any time of the year. This will clarify and eliminate the constant questions on the part of the child about the expected addition in the family.
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When a child is older and can already understandthe current situation, do not hide the symptoms of pregnancy from it. The boy needs to be explained that this happens when the new life is born, and worry about the health of the mother is not worth it. In the case of a quiet pregnancy, the joyful news to the child is better said in the second trimester, when the threat of miscarriage disappears.
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Talking with the child, you do not need to enter it into thethe fallacy of promises that the baby will love his older brother (sister) and play with him. Most likely, your eldest son will be disappointed when he realizes that he will not be able to do anything with the baby for the first time. The elder should immediately explain the real situation: the baby will be helpless, and he will need the care and increased attention of the parents. But the elder will also need help. This will allow the child to feel important, agree, he will be pleased to realize that he will be instructed to help in the care of the younger. It is important to note that with the addition of the first child in the family will not cease to love and will not change attitudes towards him.
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Explaining to the child about the appearance of the baby, it is necessaryThis topic should continue to be supported in different conversations, for example, telling the boy about brothers and sisters in familiar families. Walking with the child, you can pay attention to other children who are younger than him, making it clear that the little defenseless, weak and need care not only from the mother and father, but also from the elder brother or sister.
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The child should be instructed not too complicated householdtasks, so that he feels adult, business. Let your son take care of a pregnant mother in the same way that your father does. Before the birth, making out the room for the future baby, it will be right to involve the elder to participate in order to exclude his jealousy. After returning home from the hospital, a pleasant surprise will be the celebration of the baby's birthday with the eldest child and the delivery of gifts. The most important thing is to inform the child that his parents will not stop loving him and will give his love to him on a par with the baby.
