Bad performance in adolescents and how to deal with it
Bad performance in adolescents and how to deal with it
Poor school performance is the most common claim to teenagers of parents and teachers. Psychologist's advice is how to behave to parents to motivate a teenager to learn.
Find out the cause of school problems
Teenagers are usually accused of laziness and negligence,However, there can be a lot of reasons for failure: conflicts with teachers, conflicts with peers, unrequited love. It is important to understand the reason for the child's failure, to show that you still love him and experience it with him. To understand the reasons for poor performance, do not scold a teenager, but openly discuss with him his problems, find out what things he likes, what is difficult and what is interesting. Communicate with the school teachers, ask them to pay more attention to your child. If the child has a conflict with the teacher, do not remain an indifferent observer and do not rush to blame the teenager for everything. But at the same time, do not encourage disrespect to the teachers from the side of the teenager. But in any case, the teenager should feel your love and readiness to come to help in a difficult situation.
Encourage the adolescent to think about the future, the value of education
You can not force knowledge into the head of a teenager. Without proper motivation and desire to learn, it is unlikely that the result will be translated into a school with in-depth study of certain subjects, and appeal to a tutor. Therefore, it is very important for parents to form a correct mood for a teenager, encouraging him to reflect on the future, career choice, study, career. Discuss these opportunities with a teenager, and do not impose your opinion on who he should be. The teenager aspires to become an adult more quickly, so discuss with him that this opens up not only new opportunities, but also assumes responsibility for your future.
Whether to check the lessons?
Control on your part should be: be interested in school matters, do not let things go by themselves. Remind the adolescent about the need to prepare a homework, ask about whether he prepared lessons, what grades he received at school, what he studied today, etc. But try to educate yourself in it, and as little as possible interfere with the process of preparing the assignment.
If a teenager asks for help in solving a problem, do not decide for him, but reflect and look for the right answer with him so that later he can cope with such a task.
Try not to take unnecessarily a diary, a notebook of a teenager without his knowledge. At this age, the child is very sensitive to the violation of its borders.
Give the child a teenager to understand that you trust him and believe that he is able to succeed.
