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You will need

• - notebook;
• - a pen.

Instructions

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Try to understand why you think that orhis other act is reprehensible. Maybe you were taught from childhood that it's not good to do so. It is possible that your actions cause physical or moral suffering to someone. Perhaps it is not customary to behave in this way in the circle to which you belong or would like to belong. Record the results of your reflections. This will help you figure out whether your behavior is really sinful.

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If you come to the conclusion that your behaviorreally is sinful, think about why you did these things. Try to separate the reason from the reasons. The cause may be some external circumstance immediately preceding the act, while the reasons sometimes have to be looked for quite deeply. For example, in early childhood.

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If there is an opportunity to turn to a goodpsychotherapist, do it. But do not expect that he will take responsibility for your actions. It simply helps to reveal what motivates you to action and what are the reasons.

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Think about whether you are ready to talk about your sinsto an outsider. It can be, for example, a priest, if you are a believer. Try to turn to a wise priest who will not only let you sins, but also show you the opportunity to cope later with those reasons that cause you to commit an act in which you then have to repent. Confession is necessary so that in your words there was no shadow of bravado. Understand that you should not be proud of what you did, and praise yourself for having enough power to tell about it.

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Do not swear even to yourself that never againyou will not do this. Prohibitions, even if they come from the person himself, often provoke a backlash. A person begins to want to do an unseemly act several times stronger than before. The surest way is to avoid as much as possible situations where you previously wanted to sin. Refuse is easier than to overcome temptations later.

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Think of an interesting and useful business. Maybe you have long wanted to study painting, designing models or crocheting, but you spent too much time and energy on situations in which it was very difficult to stay away from sin. A new interesting activity will give you strength.

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Imagine yourself in the place of the person whoyour sins bring physical or moral suffering. If this person is really dear to you, you will be able to cope with yourself and stop offending him or upsetting him. Among the people who are offended by your actions there may be absolutely extraneous people who are not to blame for anything in front of you. Think about what you would do if you were treated as you are towards them.

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Create a notebook of useful and shameful deeds. Divide the page into 2 parts. In one column, write down what good or bad you have done. Assess yourself. You can even write down your actions with pens of different colors. Mark good things, for example, in green, and bad ones in red or black. Write sincerely everything that you have done for the day. Look at the color ratio on the page. Make sure that the entire notebook is filled with green ink.

Instructions

1

Conduct an inventory of life values, and inaccordance with them and habits. Most of them once benefited you or those from whom you have adopted them. But this does not mean that you need them to this day. Choose the destructive habits you want to get rid of. For example, irritability, fuss, discontent with oneself, increased criticality towards Yourself and others, laziness, thoughtless waste of money, overeating, addiction to alcohol, etc.

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Take one of the selected in the previous stephabits and analyze what constructive grain it contains, what problem it solves. For example, irritability is the protection of one's own borders, an attempt to influence others. Laziness - saving resources. Discontent with yourself is motivation for change. Transfusion and overeating - the search for positive emotions, raising the mood, etc.

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Specify Yourself two questions. First: is the task really so important, is it not a lower priority than the other, and is not connected with this the negative effect of your "harmful" habit. For example, irritability helps you to assert your rights, but destroys the warmth of communication, reduces self-esteem, spoils your mood. It is unlikely that the game is worth the candle. Should not we look for other, more sophisticated methods of solving the problem? For example, calmly explain to the opponent that you are not comfortable with his behavior. This is actually the second question: is your habit the most adequate and constructive solution to the problem and how can it be replaced.

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Mentally recall the situations in which the behavior that you want to change manifests itself. Think of an alternative scenario. Repeat it several times.

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If a situation occurs in which you used toacted on the old habit, choose a new, constructive way. Try to be attentive to your reactions and remember that you were going to change. Do not scold yourself for making mistakes, but gradually move towards the implementation of a new effective behavior.