Tip 1: What is an incomplete family
Tip 1: What is an incomplete family
A family is called incomplete if it does not have one of its parents. The reasons for the appearance of single-parent families can be diverse, there are mother and fatherless single-parent families.
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An incomplete family can arise for several reasons. There are types of single-parent families: illegitimate, decaying, orphaned, divorced. The vast majority of single-parent families are maternal.
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The remaining parent is forced to fulfill both hisduties, and duties of the absent. He resolves both domestic and material issues. In parallel with this, it is necessary to properly organize the upbringing of a child who needs both parents.
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A single parent will have to work hardabove themselves, so as not to construct in the child a negative image of the absent parent. This can be very difficult in case of family breakdown. It is necessary to do everything possible to avoid showing irritation to the child.
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The child will be interested in the fate of the secondparent, and he has the right to do so. Respect this desire with respect. Try to speak out about the second parent as tactfully and gently as possible.
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The other extreme of the behavior is excessivethe child's grip, turning into a hyperope. A lonely parent feels sorry for the child and seeks to fill in the missing care for two, but often crosses the line of discretion. As a result, the child grows unadapted to independent life, but with increased demands.
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Sometimes a lonely parent in fear of spoilingthe child becomes strict and authoritarian. This is also an extreme, especially such behavior is not desirable for the mother. The child treats him as a lack of love, because the strictness of the father and mother has different goals.
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A little more favorable thanthe dissolution of psychologists consider the situation of the death of the parent. This situation provides emotional support from all relatives, which is very important for the remaining parent and child. To the deceased parent will be formed a respectful attitude, in contrast to the situation of the collapse of the family.
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The presence of several children is also positiveaffects the adaptation to life in an incomplete family. Senior children can take on some responsibilities, help the younger and become their protectors. In an incomplete family, the emotional closeness of children is often very strong.
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Lonely parents should remember thatthe upbringing of the child is now their main task. But do not discount the possibility of a second marriage, consider yourself untenable for family life. At least, communication with representatives of the opposite sex must be supported.
Tip 2: How to raise a man in an incomplete family
Parenting a child in an incomplete family is a taskextremely difficult, and it does not matter, it's about a boy or a girl. But each gender has its own characteristics, which are worth paying attention to. The main difficulty in educating boys in single-parent families is that they have no role model.
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First of all, you just have to believe that youyou can raise a man and without the support of a biological father. Of course, his presence could significantly alleviate the problem. You need to understand that an incomplete family does not mean that you will have problems with upbringing. You just have to play two roles, and apply a subtle and very literate approach to the child.
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Relations with the mother in the child are manifested throughfeelings and emotions, with the father - through actions. Usually a woman is seen as a source of warmth and love, and a man as the head coach who directs children to achievements. Therefore, you will have to work for two, developing not only the spiritual state of the baby, but also motivating him to act properly and with dignity.
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First of all, you will have to learn to control. Do not let yourself "love" the boy, make him pampered and resentful. A man must be able to resist, so do not demand from him unconditional submission. Since 3-4 years you can start to limit yourself. It is believed that it is at this time begins to form the nature of the child.
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Do not limit the communication of the child witholder men. If you have relatives or friends with whom the child can communicate, then try to invite them more often. Ask to take your son on a fishing trip, let him go watch football together or send him on a campaign. You will have to learn to share male interests and discuss with him "boyish things."
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Accustom a child to the fact that he is your mainAssistant, your protection and support. When the boy is older, ask him to carry heavy bags. Gradually teach him to handle tools and do not be afraid to ask to do some work around the house. You need to instill in him independence, so that he himself knows how to find work around the house.
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Do not be jealous of his son to his friends. Boys are in great need of communication and friendship. In addition, he can often come home with bruises, because he will have to play active games and even fight. Do not make this a tragedy, because every man must pass through this period. Watch only that he did not get into the "bad company", but also closely monitor it, too, is not worth it.
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Do not be afraid of the sports sections thatthe child will choose, even if it is a fight or boxing. Respect the choice of your son. In addition, they will help him to gain a good physical shape, which will facilitate his life in the future. If he does not like the chosen sport, he will leave, but there is no need to somehow influence him or reproach him.
Tip 3: How to raise a child in an incomplete family
At the words "happy childhood" before the eyesthere is an image of a full-fledged close-knit family, where my mother bakes delicious pies, and my father goes with the child for fishing or football. But not everyone is so lucky, and for various reasons there are quite a few incomplete families. After the divorce, children are often brought up by their mother, and the father, at best, communicates with them on weekends. How to properly educate a baby, if he lives in incomplete family?
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If you broke up with your father child before the birth of the baby or when he was still a baby,Do not make up stories about the lost hero-pilot. When the father suddenly "resurrects" and decides to communicate with the child, the baby will understand that you have deceived him, and will cease to trust you.
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Do not indulge in all the children's whims, trying to compensate for the lack of paternal love. There is a danger of growing child egoist who does not notice the interests and needs of others.
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Do not go to the other extreme, unnecessarily severelyraising a baby, thinking that without a tough male hand, he will completely get rid of. Be kind and fair, the children need care and support, and not constant quibbles and criticism. Excessively strict requirements to the child can lead to conflict and protest on his part, everything needs a reasonable measure.
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No matter how painful your divorce may be, do not interfere with communication child with Father. Allow them to meet at least several times a week, the father in the life of the baby plays no less important role than the mother. Be patient, because calm and well-being child more important than mutual resentment and hostility.
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Be sure to talk with the baby. Very well, if both parents are present during the conversation. Convince child, that you love him no less than before, despite the fact that now you live separately with his dad.
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If the former spouse does not want to communicate with the baby, do not spill it out. child Your personal problems and do not tune it againstfather, saying which daddy is a scoundrel and a scoundrel. Tell the child that this situation has developed because the pope can not or does not want to do otherwise, and you need to take this and try not to blame the father. Do not promise that your dad will definitely return. Do not give false hopes, because the kid will always wait for his father and harass you with endless questions.
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Be tactful and patient, because at times upbringing child in incomplete family, where love and understanding reign, can be very fruitful.
