Tip 1: How to refuse a wedding
Tip 1: How to refuse a wedding
An unmarried woman can be in such aSituation: she was persistently courted, gifts were brought, and then it came to offering hands and hearts. It would seem that this is very good, it is necessary to rejoice. But the trouble is that the woman does not like the boyfriend. In any case, not enough to marry him. He can be a good, worthy, intelligent person, but a woman does not represent him in the role of husband. As they say, you can not order your heart. And now the question arises before her: how best to refuse, so as not to offend.
Instructions
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The main rule: When talking with this man, be polite and polite. Even if he is pretty tired and even angered his courtship, stubbornly not realizing clear hints that he does not suit you. Remember: men have a completely different psychology. Your hints would be absolutely clear to a woman, but for men they are akin to Chinese literacy. Also, in any case, do not show arrogance, disdain. A self-respecting man will not tolerate this.
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If you have a permanent partner, franklysay about it, without regretting kind words and enthusiastic expressions in his address. Explain that you are so happy with this man that you can create a family only with him, this is your cherished desire. You can start your answer in about these terms: "You are a good person, I'm glad that I met you, I like you very much, but, excuse me, only as a friend. I love another man". After that, list all the advantages of your partner and add: "So, you see yourself: my heart is busy." As a rule, it works. Of course, an unfortunate fan will still be unpleasant and painful, but there's nothing to be done.
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Even if you do not have a permanent partner, but the suitor does not know about it, you can act the same way. Here, as they say, the end justifies the means.
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If he knows that you have such a partnerno, you can use an effective psychological method. With a well-played embarrassment, admit that you are cruelly disappointed in all men. They say they have let you down so many times, betrayed that you have psychological problems on this ground, you consider all men to be hypocrites and deceivers. For example, you like him and seem to make the best impression, but you still instinctively alienate him. Be sure that you already addressed this problem to psychologists, but they could not help you. Therefore, there can be no question of a wedding: you do not want to make you both unhappy.
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Of course, there are many other ways to deny a man a wedding. The main rule: keep yourself in hand, be polite, do not infringe on his self-esteem.
Tip 2: How to refuse to relatives in the invitation
You will have the most important event in your life - a daymarriages. All worries and dreams are now connected with the fact that this day will be held at the highest level. And, what can you do, not always in the idea of the ideal fit unfamiliar relatives, with whom you last met at the age of five. To avoid family problems, to refuse relatives in Invitation need tactful.
You will need
- Patience, wisdom, tactfulness
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Themselves with a mustache As popular wisdom says, whopays, he orders music. Therefore, the easiest way in this situation is for the newlyweds who have taken up, in whole or in large part, financial support for the celebration. After compiling the list of guests (who will have time to undergo significant changes in a few months), it's time to hand over invitations. Most likely, parents will receive a card with woven rings and ask if you will call Aunt Larissa (Uncle Kolya, Babu Raya). If the presence of these relatives is not part of your plans, decently answer: "We will be happy to receive congratulations on the phone." Refer to the limited budget and the desire to play the wedding quietly, in the company of the closest.
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Mom of the bad will not advise it Harder, whenThe wedding budget was shared by the parents. In this case, we must agree with their presence of father's partners and mother's childhood friends. However, it is not forbidden to try tactfully to explain to parents that this is your family celebration. The following psychological trick may work: you are grateful to your parents for your care and want them on your general holiday to have a good rest and fun, and not spend all the time and energy on caring for other guests.
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If a scandal is brewing, you have every rightTo demand the absence of relatives at the wedding, with whom you have not had a frank relationship. Confess to parents that you are afraid of a scandal from those who are not too trustworthy (or who abuse alcohol). Most likely, they will agree with your arguments and will not risk the calm of the rest of the guests.
Tip 3: How innocuous to refuse a man
There comes a time when the man you alwaysconsidered as a reliable friend, begins to make you ambiguous hints of a close relationship. Your friend can inflame you with a passionate passion quite unexpectedly.
Instructions
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Your refusal should not be based on hisShortcomings. Do not tell him that he is not smart or sexy. Be diplomatic. If you have a premonition that the proposal for close relations will arrive in the near future, before it's too late, change the tactics of behavior.
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The main rule is no flirting. Calling outfits, bright lipstick, coquettish and languid look - this is a signal for a man that you are ready for intimacy. Therefore, try to behave more modestly. Observe the physical distance. Sharpness, concentration and straightforwardness in the relationship does not contradict the rules of etiquette.
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You can explain to him that you, for example, do notFree and keep your faithfulness to your One and Unique. It does not matter whether you are free at this moment or not. A man with an adequate psyche will understand you. Such an attractive and intelligent woman simply can not be alone.
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Refusal can be motivated by family traditionsupbringing, that before the wedding you are neither. If it happened that after a superfluous glass of champagne on the corporation, your friend is ready to go on the offensive, and you do not have this "it" in the plans, you can refer to "medical circumstances".
Tip 4: How to celebrate a cheap wedding
Wedding - as a symbol of the whole future of marriage. It should be luxurious, bright, fun. To organize a celebration, which will not be a shame to spend and pleasant to remember, do not necessarily get bogged down in debt. The main thing is to know what you can save on.
Instructions
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Instead of the central Palace of Marriages, the usual district registry office. The fact is that Palaces often insist on ordering a "local" photographer and other additional services.
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To hold a banquet on its territory makes sense,Only if you have a spacious country house with the necessary amenities. Will pay for the services of catering and post-office. Independently to cook, no less than to walk wedding in a city apartment is highly not recommended.
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If your option is a restaurant, find a place withThe opportunity to bring your own alcohol and fruit to the banquet. The banquet hall, other things being equal, will be cheaper than a restaurant, but if you find an attractively designed establishment, you will save on decorating.
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Do not deny yourself the pleasure of trying onWedding dresses in an expensive salon. But you can buy in a budget-class store, on an online auction (where prices start at $ 100), or sew a copy of the designer's attire in the atelier. But do not save on shoes, get a light pair in a regular store, and not in the cabin.
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In the presence of imagination and accuracy, a bouquetThe bride can be made on his own, the benefit is minimalism. Invitations, seating and other trivia for the celebration are also elementary done without the help of specialists.
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A good photographer and videographer is not always worth itexpensive. Often under the untwisted name, mediocrity is sold, and the beginning talent for a modest fee makes its work brilliant. Now many people are fond of photography and are ready to try themselves in the wedding field. Looking through the portfolio carefully, you will sooner or later find a master who will suit you by all the criteria.
Tip 5: Whom to invite to the wedding
To compile a list of guests often leavesNot only a lot of time, but also a lot of nerves. The bride wants to invite all her friends, while striking out the ex-girlfriend of the groom, and the groom does not want to see a cute colleague favorite at the wedding.
Making a list of guests for a wedding is not an easy task. How not to quarrel during the wedding preparation, keeping the thrill of anticipation of a happy holiday?
