Tip 1: How not to think about her husband's mistress
Tip 1: How not to think about her husband's mistress
Treason husband - the most painful betrayal forloving woman. From the heart-rending pain associated with the infidelity of a husband, it is not so easy to get rid of. Do not think about the insidious razluchnitse - much harder.
Instructions
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Do not let the inferiority complex developon the basis of your husband's trips to the left. Throw away the thought that you have lost the attraction, so your spouse was forced to pay attention to other women. On the contrary, he is not worthy of you, since he did so with a loving and devoted woman. Especially do not compare yourself with your mistress and think about what and in what it is better than you.
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Where is more correct for you in this situationthere will be a completely different behavior. Take care of yourself - in every sense of the word. Register for courses that were not available to you due to a constant lack of time (you spent it on fine dinners for the husband and laundry). Choose the sport that suits you best - morning run will cheer before the work day, and yoga will calm, distract from obsessive thoughts about your mistress. Often meet with friends and relatives - it is better to strengthen family and friendly ties than inconsolable pouring tears for the traitor.
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Do not try to call your husband's mistress and allpossible ways to look for her meetings. It will not be easier for you to do this - on the contrary, communication with the one who breaks up your family will bring you a lot of additional mental suffering. If you begin to beg her to leave her beloved alone, give it to you and not leave her children without her father, cry - then she will tell you about everything to your spouse with great pleasure. Deprive her of this opportunity to expose herself to your husband in a favorable light - quickly curb the growing desire to "look at this bitch in brazen eyes," nothing good will end there. If she herself calls you and tells the details of her intimate meetings with your husband, do not react to her attacks by responding to insults and threats as much as she wants from you.
Tip 2: How to deal with her husband's mistress
For any normal woman to know that Husband there is a mistress - a heavy shock. The deceived spouse experiences a storm of feelings: a burning resentment, anger, a desire to take revenge on both her mistress and her husband. This is understandable and natural, because there is hardly a girl who will accept treason with cold-blooded calm.
Instructions
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If you find out what your Husband there is a mistress, try to calm emotions first. No need to arrange a tantrum, a scandal. Sit down and calmly think: Do you want to save the family? Often, despite the insult, a woman still loves her husband and does not want to destroy the family union.
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In no case do not resort to helpAll sorts of "sorcerers", "hereditary magicians" and other charlatans, promising a one hundred percent guarantee of a lapel or guiding spoilage on the razluchnitsu. Remember that you just throw money away.
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Reconsider the desire to physically deal with mistress Husband, Even if everything inside is bubbling with indignation, and his hands are so itching to "teach a lesson to this scoundrel". Do not descend to insults at the girl, do not humiliate yourself in her eyes, and even more so in the eyes Husband!! Be a wise woman.
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Similarly, do not take revenge on your mistress's mistressmore sophisticated ways. For example, to spread defamatory information, especially among her relatives, friends, acquaintances. Especially do not call her, do not threaten. In most cases this will only lead to even greater cooling Husband and its distance from you.
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Do not press on pity, trying to explain to her howShe acts badly and unworthily, taking the married man out of the family. In the best case, the mistress will be embarrassed, even will experience some remorse. Remember that she can laugh at you with a malicious triumph.
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Try to be again for the wife herselfthe best, beloved, beautiful and desirable woman in the world. To do this, carefully look at your mistress, and objectively. Do your best to find the answer to the question: "What did he find in her that I do not have?" And act according to the answer. Maybe you need to become a little more affectionate, sexy. Remember: family happiness is in your hands.
Tip 3: How to leave a husband in the family
Once again, you get the idea thatthe husband is not satisfied with family relations. You find daily confirmation of your assumptions, but at the same time do not intend to lose the spouse. In this case, it is worthwhile changing the situation in the most concrete way.
Instructions
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Consider that people change with age. The internal growth of a person, his priorities and values can radically change attitudes towards life, women, and the family. Therefore, the problem of maintaining and strengthening a marriage depends not only on your conclusions and actions. You are not in the right and can not limit the freedom of your husband, but you have a chance with all sincerity to show him the sides of his personality, which, perhaps, will stop him and prevent him from leaving his family.
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Be sure to communicate with your husband. Paradoxically, the main problems in marriage begin to arise precisely because the husband and wife simply stop discussing everything that is of mutual interest to them. Do not reduce your contacts only to the solution of everyday problems in the pursuit of material well-being. Make joint entertainment that is interesting to both: read interesting books, visit theaters, go to a football match, go fishing, etc. If the slightest disagreement arises, do not allow yourself to be offended and go away from resolving the conflict situation.
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Serious place in family relations isunderstanding. Constantly analyze the statements of her husband in a joint conversation, evaluate his behavior and actions. On the basis of this, draw conclusions, trying to understand what changes may occur in the nature of your husband, what are his life priorities in the first place. If these changes appeal to you, allow you to develop the most, then you both have a chance not only to maintain your family ties, but worth living together.
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Watch your health and appearance. Men, whatever they say, like outwardly pretty and slender women. However, this is often not the key to maintaining a marriage. Maintain the attractiveness of your figure, but do it solely for your own health and beauty. Emphasize your attention and the attention of your husband on the other side of this behavior. Show him that by taking care of yourself, you are able to take care of his health, to promote his activity and success. This applies not only to playing sports, caring for the body, but also the variety of intimate relationships, proper rest, etc.
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Create a home atmosphere of coziness and harmony. Your spouse is unlikely to give up home comfort and peace. Most men consider their house to be a fortress, a place where scandals and discontent, boredom and confusion are ruled out. Therefore, if necessary, do together with your husband repair, fill the house with sunny and light tones, thus creating conditions for preserving your relationship, maintaining and developing mutual feelings.
Tip 4: How Do Women Think About Women
Women, communicating with each other, often come up withsomething that is not. For example, when a girlfriend says that she likes a dress, the one who said this, thinks that a friend is jealous. Although that's all on all expressed her opinion.
Instructions
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Female friendship is often a test for both sides. Due to natural impressionability, resentment and predisposition to fantasy, women often give out wishful thinking. They see in the words of a friend reproach or ridicule, which are not there. Or, on the contrary, they can not see the sincere participation and resent the lack of attention. To keep friendship for many years only women capable of sober reason, great patience and the ability to forgive are able.
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Women are quite difficult to communicate even with loved onesgirlfriends, because they are inclined to think in their own way all the actions. For example, if one girlfriend did not call the other, the one who was waiting for the call will begin to think that a friend of her is offended for something. He will start to remember what happened, get angry, wind himself up, instead of just picking up a number. One call will solve all the issues. Most likely, the girlfriend just twirled, she ran out of money on the phone, she was at a meeting, etc. Everything will turn out in five minutes. And without a call, a serious quarrel can occur at a meeting.
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When one woman says another compliment, that onealways looking for subtext in them. If a girlfriend said that her pants go very well, the girl thinks - "it means that I'm bad in a skirt - my legs are crooked, my hips are thick." And instead of rejoicing in praise, he saves anger in his heart, suspecting that a friend envies her or, conversely, laughs at her.
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If a girlfriend suddenly has a boyfriend, the other,left alone, offended. She thinks that now the girlfriend will not spend enough time with her, forget about her. Of course, the meeting time will be shortened. But do not despair. You can meet the company more often, get acquainted with the guy's friends. Perhaps a lonely girlfriend will meet his mate. Then two pairs of friends will have a lot of fun together.
