Tip 1: Mistakes in relationships and their consequences
Tip 1: Mistakes in relationships and their consequences
Men and women sometimes do not understand that eventhe strongest relationship can be destroyed at any stage. Psychologists recommend observing certain rules that will help prevent serious mistakes.
The first rule is an early intimate relationship. You can not have sex on a first date, even if both partners want it. For a woman, this is an unforgivable mistake. Since a man can easily take her to easily accessible people, and to build a serious relationship and the more so a man will hardly want to marry a woman like that.
The second rule is frankness. Exchange of information is an important stage in the beginning of acquaintance. But many people try to tell absolutely everything about themselves at the first meeting, splashing out on the partner a huge dose of revelations. This should be done gradually, but not immediately.
The third rule is bothering by phone or SMS. Do not bother with each other. Often, women endlessly call their chosen one or exchange regular messages on social networks or via SMS. Do not do this, otherwise you can just get bored or lose interest in each other.
The fourth rule is espionage. Worst of all, if a man walks into the room and sees a woman looking through his e-mail or reading an SMS. Then mutual trust is automatically reduced, and as they say: "there is no trust - no relationship." The prospect of an excellent relationship will be lost.
The fifth rule is a fictional orgasm. Many women imitate orgasm in order to support their partner or make him feel good and thereby enhance their self-esteem. Imitating orgasm can be 1 or 2 times, but no more. If a woman constantly imitates an orgasm, soon the man will understand this. It is better to discuss the points that allow you to get real pleasure from sex.
Rule six is an attempt at re-education. Women should not try to change a man, because nothing good will come of it. Accept the partner as he is.
The seventh rule is to remember yourself. If you forget about your needs and your desires, you will never see happiness. Therefore, partners must understand that they must spend some of their energy in order to live fully. Relations, of course, need to be developed, but everything should go at a normal pace.
Given these rules, you can avoid serious mistakes in the relationship.
Tip 2: How to become a loving woman
The nature of men is such that they are polygamous. If something does not suit them in a relationship, they seek care and understanding on the side, so a woman should try to avoid typical mistakes that occur in family everyday life.
Instructions
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Do not roll up grandiose scandals and all the more soDo not teach a man how to live properly. First of all, you become an object of irritation, and he will cease to take you seriously. It's quarrels and abuse that kill any, even the strongest, relationship. If something does not suit you in your life together, just talk to the person without breaking off to insults and moralizing.
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Do not deprive the man of his personal space. Every person should have their hobbies and hobbies. Do not be a fish-sticky: give him the opportunity to choose what he wants to do in his spare time, because before the relationship with you, he, for sure, went fishing with friends or on weekends went to the swimming section. At least occasionally rest from each other, so that every new meeting to wait with impatience.
3
Do not try to change a person in your own way. Perhaps in the first couple of weeks your lover will accept all your vagaries and innovations, but with every deformation and reformation in it the spirit of contradiction will mature, the consequences of which can become fatal for your union. Love a person for who he is, because this imperfect man makes you smile and makes your days happier.
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Do not you dare be jealous. Jealousy is a sign of weakness and self-doubt, a sick desire to possess a person completely and completely. Snooping, reading messages, full monitoring of your men's personal life can play with you a cruel joke and put an end to your future relationship.
5
Never be impelled. Men are arranged differently than women: they are more secretive. If he finds it necessary, he will certainly tell about his problems and experiences. And if it was revealed to you, you should not joke and ignore it. Show interest. Listen, support and try to help. So you will win his trust and respect.
Tip 3: How to build relationships after the quarrel
AT relations between people, things do not go smoothly. Even the closest friends or the most loving and caring spouses can quarrel. And, as often happens in such situations, the conflict can erupt due to the most perfect trifle, not even worth mentioning. In the heat quarreling people sometimes tell each other a lot of very offensive and unjust. How can I fix it? effects thoughtless act?
Instructions
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Certainly, it is a pity, if there is a disorder in the family. But, as the philosopher said: "Even a genius can make a mistake, but only a fool persists, without acknowledging his mistakes." In other words, if it came to quarreling, then we must be able to make peace.
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Try not to postpone reconciliation for later. Believe me, the more time passes after quarreling, the harder it will be for you to regain the previous relationship. As soon as the first fuse passed, replaced by confusion and bewilderment, especially if the remorse started - take the initiative in your hands safely. Do not wait until the other side takes the first step, even if you think that all the blame for what happened is on it.
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Remember: it is extremely rare that one participant quarreling - a real angel, and the second - the descent of hell. As a rule, both parties are guilty in the conflict. Folk wisdom says: "The first step towards reconciliation is made by one who is smarter." Do your own conclusions.
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Analyze, preferably - objectively andimpartially, the cause of the conflict. If you can not do it yourself, suggest to the "enemy" something like this: "Let's calmly understand, because of what everything happened and how to avoid it in the future. I very much regret that we quarreled, and I do not want to make the same mistakes anymore. " It is difficult to refuse such a proposal. After all, your opponent is probably sorry for what happened, but here you seem to admit your wrong, albeit in a somewhat "neutral" form, make it clear that you cherish your relations and do not want to put them at risk.
5
Women should refrain in every way fromwhat a powerful "weapon", like tears. Yes, the sight of a bitterly weeping girlfriend will confuse any normal man, awaken in him a feeling of pity and guilt. This, on the one hand, can contribute to reconciliation. On the other hand, a man will still experience strong moral discomfort, because he yielded to a "dishonest" reception. In addition, if you resort to this method repeatedly, he will start annoying a partner or he will simply stop paying attention to him.
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A smart person learns from other people's mistakes, a fool does not even learn from his own. After reconciliation has taken place, do not subject your relationship to new challenges.
Tip 4: How to tell about treason
Treason of a loved one is one of the three most frequent reasons for suicide. So, if you decide to admit to infidelity, you need to competently and delicately approach this issue.
Instructions
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Prepare heart drugs. The information on infidelity so shockingly shock the partner that he can become ill when he hears this news. Prepare to ensure that in the nearest availability there was water and medicines.
2
Talk about change alone with a partner. This information is a huge stress for a person. Many people experience a deep humiliation, learning about the fact of treason. There is no need to strengthen this bitter feeling at the expense of publicity.
3
Suggest discuss the reasons for what happened. Psychologists call a change a point in problematic relations. In fact, the trek to the left is the final chord in the long-maturing emotional conflict in the family. If you tried not to notice the problems that resulted in change, now is their time to discuss. Your partner should have a chance to realize his and your mistakes in order to avoid them in the future.
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Be ready to break the relationship. Treason is considered to be a point of irreversibility in a relationship. After the fact of betrayal becomes known to the partner, many relationships break off. And if they are preserved, then their quality becomes completely different. You must be prepared in advance for the consequences of your decision to report infidelity.
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Do not offend your partner with your confession. Try to convey information in the most delicate way. Make it clear to a once-beloved person that you have changed not because he is bad, but for his own special reasons. It is believed that in a problematic relationship, a weaker partner is deciding on treason. So be honest and admit that instead of solving conflicts, you decided to escape from them in a new relationship.
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Tell us about your pain. There are other situations: a partner for a long time humiliated or offended you, ignored or did not appreciate highly. Tell him about it. He should get a chance to reform if he wants to.
Tip 5: Mistaken reactions to compliments
Compliments are made in order toto demonstrate their good attitude towards a person, to cheer him up or simply to note the positive aspects of his character, his appearance or professionalism. It would seem that you should take them with pleasure. However, not everyone knows how to react to them correctly.
Error 1.
The first erroneous reaction is embarrassment. It is typical for people who have too low self-esteem. They immediately begin to blush, grow pale, deny their dignity and so on. And any mistake, of course, has consequences. If an embarrassed reddened face and lowered eyes can still give a person a touching look, then the absurd mumbling and accent on their shortcomings will not create a better impression on the interlocutor. This also can offend him, because by that you show the interlocutor that his opinion is not important to you.
Error 2.
The second error is the inability to respond tocompliment. This reaction is typical for people who do not like to be in the spotlight and simply do not know how to respond to compliments. They also begin to belittle or completely deny their advantages and merits. Or they begin to respond with standard answers, namely, to do exactly the same compliment in response. A standard response to a compliment or copying a compliment will create an impression on your interlocutor that you treat him with indifference, you are busy with your own affairs and you do not even have to compliment now.
Error 3.
The third mistake is absent-mindedness andsuspicion. This is typical for scattered people who are constantly busy with their thoughts and too suspicious can simply ignore the compliment. The first can do this, because they just do not have time to switch their attention. The second is doing this, because they begin to suspect something is amiss and begin to wonder what it is that suddenly the interlocutor decided to make a compliment. But the interlocutor, in turn, can decide that you just zagardilis. If he is not familiar with you and he does not know the nature of your character, for example absent-mindedness, then this will lead to a deterioration in the relationship between you.
