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With the advent of the younger child, the situation in the familybegins to change radically. Before that, the eldest was the only child of his mother and father, and now he has to share the attention of his parents with a small brother or sister. To some extent, regardless of age, the child experiences a stressful condition, as a consequence - there is a feeling of jealousy and property to his parents. In quarrels and fights, competition between children for the attention of parents and the manifestation of greater love for themselves is manifested. To avoid emerging conflicts, parents can apply the following recommendations. Preparation. A few months before the expected delivery, tell your child that you will soon have another baby in your family. It is best to talk about this right now, when the child can see the confirmation of your words. Family advice. It is better to collect it directly before childbirth. Call at the same table all members of your family, including grandparents who live with you, and discuss plans for the future. As, for example, will be arranged for children. Take into account the opinion of everyone, especially the opinion of the older child. It is possible that he will increase self-esteem from the fact that his opinion is considered to be adults, and as a result, the desire to help will increase. Tell the child about possible changes in the home with the appearance of a baby in the family, that the usual course of life will change. That now the older child in the kindergarten (or school) will not be led by a mother, but by a grandmother, for example, etc. Distribute responsibilities for caring for the baby, giving the older child a choice of what he will do: roll the crib, for example, or tell a fairy tale for the night. Thus, the child will feel that he takes an active part on par with the parents in the upbringing and care of the younger. The most important thing is trust. If the older one asks you to hold the baby, but you think that he does not have enough strength, put him in a chair and put the baby on his knees, while remaining nearby to monitor the situation. Trust the older child to teach the younger and pay attention to the reaction of the baby: how he smiles to the elder and walks. Do not forget to praise the older child, he is now very important. It seems that the child does not want to help and in every way ignores the younger child. Do not force to take part in the life of the younger, you can come across a hostile reaction. Do not scold the child for manifestations of jealousy, accept the situation, allocate time for games only with the older child. Cut any attempts of competition between children, the desire of children to compare themselves with each other. Separate for each emphasize the dignity, without pointing not the flaws of the other. It is much better to teach children to regulate conflicts by themselves, to teach cooperation and diplomacy, naturally, when children become older. Remember: the nature of the relationship between children depends on parents in full. To minimize the stress associated with the birth of the youngest child, parents should be sensitive to the needs of older children.