What if my husband left for a friend
What if my husband left for a friend
Problems in marriage begin from time to timeliving together: quarrels, constant clarification of relationships ... However, it happens that everything is fine, in the family of idyll. And suddenly ... her husband leaves for her friend. What to do? Panic, depression? Everything can be not so scary. The main thing is to forgive and understand yourself.
Instructions
1
First of all, you need to ask yourself questionsyourself: - What does this man mean to you, abstracting from the fact that he is your husband, - what feelings do you have in relation to your husband: love or just affection? - could you live without a husband and beyond?
2
The main thing here is to understand you, so this isthat only you are guilty of what happened. Since, firstly, if the husband did not want, he would not have left, that is, there was something in you that allowed him to leave. Perhaps this is a claim to it from your side, insufficient love. Secondly, it is necessary to understand that the husband took such decisions from the totality of his internal factors, which told him that everything needed to be changed, to start a new life. And believe me, it does not make him any better. Thirdly, you can not change your husband, but only change yourself so that this person wants to return to you.
3
It is quite possible that a verystrong conflict and misunderstanding between you, which provoked withdrawal, that is, in this case, the act on the part of her husband was made in retaliation for something. In this case, you need to understand the causes of the conflict, assess first of all your behavior, and then the behavior of the parties. It is important in this case to look at the situation from the side of another person, as if it were you. This is a very good psychological technique. Often after this, everything falls into place, because you yourself feel what exactly pushed him to make such a decision.
4
In this situation, do not blame the girlfriend, becauseit is in this case only as a link, that is, on the contrary, a disconnecting link, which was the reason for parting with her husband. Understand that if the husband did not want to leave, he would not have left. That is, he had his reasons. And these reasons must be sought in yourself.
