How to fight with her husband
How to fight with her husband
Probably, there is not a single married couple who wouldAt least once, and did not quarrel. Psychologists say: quarrel with a loved one is useful - it strengthens the family, allowing them to voice their claims to each other. Thus, the conflict can be solved in the bud. However, the feelings that remain in the soul after the quarrel, to put it mildly, are unpleasant. How can you "right" quarrel, so that after the scandal, a truce ensued.
Time and place. The best option would be if your quarrelwill be away from other people's eyes. Then you will not have to blush for your incontinence. In addition, the sweet reconciliation, which will necessarily follow, certainly does not need witnesses.
It is important for parents to remember that with childrenyou can not quarrel. For them it is a disaster, the collapse of their stable world. If, nevertheless, the kids have witnessed the conflict, try to calmly explain to them that you all love them and love each other.
Definitely do not start a fight over an empty stomach. Hungry people are always more aggressive, and men are hungry - irritable doubly.
Do not put it off the hook. Over time, a deferred conversation can develop into aa real scandal. Emotions that do not get out, will gradually accumulate, and can pour out at any minute. If your second half does your best to avoid discussing the issue, be persistent and explain that this topic does not give you rest.
Only one topic.Try to not quarrel all the old sins in a quarrel. Limit yourself to solving one urgent problem. Try to avoid the temptation to remember all the past grievances.
We build the right claims.From what kind of phrase will fly from your lips,The perception of the same situation can be different. "You forgot to call me again!" Is a blunt accusation that can cause irritation. "I was very worried when you did not call back" - the emphasis is on your feelings, and this phrase is perceived quite differently.
Watch for words and actions.If a quarrel broke out in earnest, tryYet control what you say. Insults, comparisons with someone or just not flattering utterances are deeply hurt and remembered for a long time. No matter how angry you are, do not go down to assault. Physical aggression is a long, great grudge.
The most pleasant thing after a constructive quarrel isreconciliation. However, you do not need to hurry, if you have not "cooled down". But it's also not right to delay. Go to bed with resentment, against each other, it is not necessary, tk. Multi-day quarrels only aggravate the situation. If it's still difficult to forgive your second half, think about the pleasant moments in your married life, remember, in the end, why you fell in love with this man. And the anger will evaporate, as if it was not at all.
