How to call a stepfather
How to call a stepfather
When a stepfather comes to the house, the problem is how hiscall, becomes one of the primary. In this case, everything depends on how old the child is at, what kind of relationship the wife's children and her new husband will be able to build, whether they will become friends and how comfortable life will be together.
The appearance in the stepfather's family rarely runs smoothly anddoes not cause difficulties in the relationship with the children of his wife. Well, if there was enough time to make friends or get used to each other. Worse, if the news of global changes in the family coincides with the acquaintance. Psychologists believe that it is wrong to imagine the new husband of the mother as a "new dad." Bloody father is one, regardless of how he treats the child and whether he takes part in his upbringing after the divorce. It is better if, on acquaintance with the stepfather, be introduced by name or call himself an uncle + name. The further development of relations will determine the degree of proximity and trust. The child himself, without coercion and persuasion, will decide how he should be called a person who claims to be a high father. As you know, not the father who gave birth, but the one who raised and brought up.
Why do small children easily and quickly call their stepfather a pope
Kids are very sensitive to the mood of adults. Especially strong is the connection with mom. And if the mother internally wants the child to call his stepfather a father, the kid responds to this desire and begins to call the new member of the family the pope. If there is no communication with the native father, then this causes neither doubts nor internal conflict. Over time, this treatment becomes habitual, and the child perceives his stepfather as his father. With all the conflicts and contradictions that would arise in the communication of blood relatives of parents and children. If the same communication with the father goes on regularly, then periodically the little child has doubts and questions. It is important to explain the situation to the child in the way that adults themselves see it, without engendering hostility to any of the popes. How to call a stepfather a teenager
Much depends on how you managed to put yourselfin the family's stepfather. Flirting, indulgence and zadarivaniya to anything good will not. The teenager will feel insincerity. And even calling his stepfather a dad, he will stumble all the time before uttering this word. Or learn how to cunning, realizing that he has the opportunity to purchase pleasant bonuses. In any case, this is not the case when the word "dad" will be pronounced on the soul's impulse. Lies and insincerity at any time can lead to embarrassment or a conflict situation. It's good if a friendly relationship has developed between the stepfather and the teenager and the question of calling him dad or uncle + the name does not play a big role. The main thing is that it is sincerely spoken and does not cause embarrassment to any member of the family. Do not squeeze the word "dad" out of yourself in the desire to please your mother or to deserve a gift. It is necessary to call the stepfather as the heart tells, and at the same time try to build a comfortable or friendly relationship. It is not so rare that a stepfather becomes very close, close to a person, and it does not matter how his wife's child calls it. Perhaps it's worth talking frankly with adults, either to ask permission to call the stepfather a dad, or to explain why this is unacceptable or undesirable. In any case, it is not worth the whole family to live with a load of uncertainty.
