How to forgive from the heart
Keep the resentment in yourself is very difficult, but also forgiveit can not everyone. It's just that you have not been taught from childhood how to do it right. But if you manage to let go, forget the situation, life changes in the best way.
Insult in a person
Man is accustomed to accumulate in himself a claim tosurrounding. Everyone is constantly blamed for what is happening: politics, the economy, the boss, the parents. And all this is a manifestation of inner tension. And there are cases when betrayal or deception simply eats a person from within, and he wants to remove this feeling, but it does not work. Modern psychology offers several methods of forgiveness. It is very important not to save offense, but immediately to spill it out, if it's bad for you, do not be silent, but tell all the offender in your eyes. You can scream, swear or cry. People who express emotions like this live longer, they have fewer heart problems. They immediately splash out the pain without collecting it inside. Learn this, because even if you remove all grievances, it will be important not to accumulate new ones.Exercises for forgiveness
To forgive a person completely, he needs everythingto express. It is necessary to raise everything that has been accumulated and to say it. Of course, if you go to say everything to parents, friends or loved ones, it will not work. But all this can be done in writing. Stay alone, take a sheet of paper and start writing to the person you want to forgive. Tell him everything you wanted, blame him, criticize him, call him names. As honestly as possible, write about what he did, what pain he caused you. Of course, it will cause tears, but do not be afraid of them, they do not interfere with writing further. Try to throw everything on the paper. The second stage of forgiveness is also a letter. In it, write down what you yourself are to blame. Usually the process of resentment is not one-sided, and you know that there is some blame in the past on you. Write to him that they themselves were not always right, ask for forgiveness for this. Be sincere, let the letter become the most important dialogue in the history of your relationship. This text will be written already easier than the past, you will see your shortcomings. In the end, you must forgive yourself for all this. Write a couple lines to yourself, convince yourself that you could not do otherwise. The third letter is the conclusion of the exercise. They are written as if you want to give it away. Write a letter, forgiving. Say that you understand a person that you do not hold evil against him. It will be like mixing the first two letters. Tell us about yourself, about your experiences and actions, express to him the claims that he did. And you will notice that by the time the letter ends, this person will not be so much hurt you, thoughts about him will stop worrying. These letters are enough to forgive completely. But it is important to create them from the heart. After everything is done, it is better to burn the texts.
