Tip 1: How to learn to perceive people as they are
Tip 1: How to learn to perceive people as they are
Each person is unique, but recognize in anotherthe presence of features can not everyone. People are used to comparing each other, condemning and blaming different things. But if you learn to accept others, if you respect the opinion and individuality of others, life will become much easier.
Instructions
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Each person has different sides: and bad and good. Look at yourself first, because there is something to be proud of, and some qualities are very controversial. So in every other person, there is something beautiful and kind, and there is something not very pleasant. And only a combination of all these properties makes each one unique. If you understand this point of view, believe in it, then it will be easier to communicate with people.
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Children are born in different places, study in a veryunlike conditions, as well as accumulate their experience. Someone has more, some have less. This creates different views. Someone understands life, in a relationship, someone likes technology, not psychology. And no one can be a professional in all spheres. Therefore, when faced with ignorance, do not blame, but remember that you are not in certain areas as well. Just let a man be deluded. Sometimes you need to enter into a dispute to prove an error, and sometimes you can just watch. If someone does not have certain knowledge, then they simply did not need him. Take it for granted, do not get irritated.
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People in different ways feel joy, transfersuffering. For some, the worst thing is the pain of relatives, for others - the loss of money. There are no common values for everyone, they are individual. So do not blame people if they do not act the way you think is right. They have their own priorities, their desires, they are guided by them. Try to understand why they act this way, analyze the behavior, but do not put ratings. Everyone lives by their own principles, and to fix something in another is very difficult.
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Start looking at people's lives as if from outside. Discover for yourself different views, different types of behavior and reactions. Do not interfere, do not try to understand what is right and what is not. Just know that this is the opinion of another, for him it is optimal. This is a very exciting process, enter it, and you will always be as if out of situations. Do not lose this position in moments of communication, just see what happens. Do not argue, do not prove your case, let the person be any.
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Look for in every event, in every act differentside. In good deeds, there is always a place for something negative, and in bad there is always good. In the life of any person, everything is interconnected, and it is sometimes difficult to understand what is good and what is not. After all, even character traits are shown differently each time, for example, sometimes stubbornness is bad, and sometimes it's the ability to do it your way, to prove to the whole world the rightness and achieve the result. Realizing the duality of what is happening, you will become more tolerant, and some features of other people will only cause a smile, not negative experiences.
Tip 2: Why do people condemn others
Some people sin with slander. They can not refrain from gossip and discussion of others. There are several reasons for this: from discontent with one's own life to banal envy to someone else's success.
Instructions
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Keep in mind that sometimes people condemn others,to appear better in the eyes of others. For this it is not necessary that a person commit a terrible crime, it is enough just to violate the social norm. In order not to think that the individual approves such indecent behavior, he pours his voice into the chorus of the indignant. It is possible that he himself sins with similar views or principles. But while he was not caught red-handed, he pretends to be an angel. Such individuals are called hypocrites.
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Other individuals tend to condemn others forthat self-assertion at their expense. Such people have low self-esteem. Deep down they think they have not achieved anything in life, but instead of setting ambitious goals and achieving them, they prefer to gloat over the failures of other individuals. In such cases, people are angry with themselves, dissatisfied with their lives. They believe that their fate was unjustly offended, and they break away into others.
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Some people cling to every occasionrejoice at the failures of those to whom they envy. In the life troubles of those who have achieved more than themselves, these individuals see a manifestation of some higher justice. This applies not only to envy of acquaintances, colleagues and friends, but gloating about the failures in the life of the stars. Envious losers hate the rich, famous, young and beautiful. They are happy to pour mud on them.
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Sometimes people condemn others without even noticing it. For some grumpy individuals, this behavior has become a habit. Their negative is directed not specifically at this person. They just constantly express their displeasure with what is happening. Such people have formed a certain critical attitude, and they can not stop. Such a bilious character can appear with age, because of a certain circle of communication or health problems.
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It happens that people condemn others as they think,is fair. They are genuinely indignant at someone's behavior or words and can not refrain from criticism. Such personalities should be reminded that violators of their peace of mind may have personal motives to do so, and not otherwise. In addition, you should always make allowances for poor health, everyday problems, fatigue and irritation of others. People who like to condemn others, forgive themselves for such misdeeds, given the circumstances, but do not take this position when it comes to others.
Tip 3: How to learn to accept people as they are
In life, a person communicates with a variety of people. Some give positive emotions, others take emotional and emotional energy, but somehow they all bring something into our lives, they teach something.
Instructions
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Often it happens that when communicating manifests itselfthe absolute mismatch of two people, different thoughts, opinions and ways of expressing them. An emotional and receptive person long afterwards experiences this situation, ponders and carries it around. He understands that this negatively affects him, but he can not understand and accept the other person as he is.
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Worst of all, when such an aversion personfeels towards a close acquaintance or relative, because you need to communicate further, but there is no understanding. To learn to react more calmly and accept other people, you need to try to follow in life several rules.
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We must accept the fact that all people are different. If a person begins to argue, it is not because he wants to spoil relations, but only because he is sincerely convinced of his rightness. It does not make sense to convince him, it is worth doing only in the most extreme cases, when the principle of the matter is the highest. But it is only necessary to accept the fact that the thinking of all people is completely different, as it becomes easier to perceive someone else's wrong point of view.
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The same applies to the habits of other people. You can not retrain a colleague to talk on the phone quietly or force a spouse to put a dirty dish immediately in the dishwasher. One can only accept the fact that for them this action is the norm, and to be nervous about it or not is the choice of everyone.
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It is necessary to continue to treat respectfully even tothat person who is not respected for that. If it does not fit into the general picture of the world and generally accepted rules, one must understand that the rules are also very subjective. For someone to throw a cigarette butt - is unacceptable, and someone and steal is not ashamed.
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Accept a person always as he is,means to stop expecting something from him. When you do not expect anything from another person and treat everyone exactly, there will be less disappointment in life. We must try to accept as an axiom that a person is not bad, but just another. Some people in this case are helped by a wise saying: "No one owes anything to anyone."
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Another important rule on the way toother people is the love of oneself. By adopting oneself as nature conceived and embodied by the parents, with all the advantages and disadvantages, a person changes his attitude towards the surrounding people, learning to look at the shortcomings of others more easily. Then disappointments in life will be less, and the nervous system will be preserved for many years.
