Tip 1: How to transfer a conversation to another topic
Tip 1: How to transfer a conversation to another topic
Sometimes in conversation the interlocutor can affectunpleasant for you topics. If you do not want to rudely break off your opponent, because you are afraid of offending a person, try to gently translate your conversation on another topic.
Instructions
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In the story of your interlocutor, in addition,directly, a description of an unpleasant incident for you, there are certainly other details. Highlight one of them and develop this topic. For example, if a former young man decided to recall your first date, let him know that in the cafe where you met that evening, changed the interior, new dishes appeared on the menu, and the barman cooks the mojito well. Further conversation can be safely built on the discussion of your favorite cocktails and places where you can order the most delicious drinks.
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Pretend that during an unpleasant conversationyou remember what you wanted to ask for a long time. Ask for clarifications about the fate of former classmates, ask if the cat has recovered, about the illness of which you were told during the last meeting. If nothing comes to your head, ask your interlocutor whether he is aware of whether your favorite show is showing today.
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Talk about what you see around. Today the weather is fine, the charming little dress passes by the little girl passing by, a large dog runs without a leash, and the polyclinic near which you stand, there is no ramp for strollers. Surely one of these topics will seem to your interlocutor worthy of its development.
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During an unpleasant conversation, doa compliment to the interlocutor. Praise his shoes, tie or a new hairstyle. Indicate how fresh and young he looks. A flattered opponent probably wants to share with you the address of the place where he was so successfully cut, or he decides to tell where he went to rest and improve his health.
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Refer to the ringing phone and leave oncouple of minutes of the interlocutor. While you are out, come up with a topic that you would like to talk to. Returning, immediately begin to tell, not letting a person insert a word. If the previous topic for the conversation was not too important for the opponent, he will easily switch to a new conversation.
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Tell me straight out that you do not like this conversation. If you get an adequate and sensitive person to the interviewees, after this phrase, he himself will change the topic or offer you to talk about what you want.
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If no tricks do not help to avoidinappropriate questions or unpleasant memories that the distant acquaintance decided to stir up, it is better to leave such an interlocutor. Refer to the employment, say goodbye and as soon as possible retire from the scene. Probably, next time you will be able to start a conversation on another topic.
Tip 2: How to read other people's thoughts
In fact, their Thoughts and feelings people express not only in words - theycommunicate with each other also in the body language with the help of facial expressions, gestures, poses. And, if you manage to control your speech, then the language of the body is much harder to control. Ability to understand it greatly simplifies communication, because you can read others Thoughts and adjust their behavior and words.
Instructions
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The fact that your interlocutor trusts you and is ready withyou communicate, tell the open palms of his hands or shrug his shoulders, accompanied by gestures with open palms. If your interlocutor is a man, then at the same time he can take off or unbutton his jacket, relax the tie knot. Sit more conveniently, leaning back in his chair.
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If your counterpart feels a hidden threat, orthe situation seems to him conflicting, then he can cross his arms on his chest or squeeze his hands into fists. His confidence will be told to you by the intertwined fingers connected to the "dome", this also means complacency and pride in oneself.
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Evaluating you and looking closely, he can prop uphead with his hand. If he is critical at the same time, then the gesture will tell about it, when the chin rests on the big one, and the index finger is stretched along the cheek, the rest of the clubs are below the mouth. In the event that he evaluates you positively, he sits on the edge of the chair, as if moving closer to you, his elbows at the same time will be restrained in the hips, and his hands hang freely. A head tilted to the shoulder is a gesture of attention and interest.
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When your partner starts pacing - this isan attempt to solve the problems that have arisen or to take a decision that is given with difficulty. About deep concentration to you will tell his gesture, when he begins to rub or pinch the bridge of his nose, while closing his eyes.
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Carefully consider what is saidthe interlocutor when he covers his mouth with his hand - he tries to deceive you or hides his position. A glance aside will only confirm this. He will express his doubts, rubbing or touching the tip of the nose or earlobe. Twitching the earlobe is a signal that your counterpart wants to interrupt the conversation or transfer it to another topic.
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The fact that your interlocutor is nervous and feelsanxiety, you can understand by frequent coughing, but that he is going to get away from answers to direct questions - a pyramid formed by the elbows and fingers on the table, compressed and located under the mouth line.
Tip 3: How to behave when meeting
Getting to know a person is always excitinga process that raises many questions. It is important to understand how to behave in such moments, what to talk about and what to feel. It depends on it, whether your further relations will develop or not.
Instructions
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Make sure that the place where you are issuitable for dating. If you see that a person is in a hurry on his business, it may be better to approach him under more favorable circumstances for communication. It is best to get acquainted in a suitable environment: in the park, in a cafe, in a club and other places of entertainment.
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Find the person closer. Ask him simple questions about what he does, what are his interests and hobbies, tastes and preferences, etc. After that, talk about yourself in the same vein, but do not praise yourself and do not say anything false.
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Behave naturally. You do not have to pretend to be someone else and think out the nonexistent features of your character. Show yourself to who you really are, avoid falsehood and unnecessary details. Do not go into details, tell only what your friend needs to know first
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Pay attention to the interlocutor. Do not interrupt a person and do not show by your very appearance that you are bored to listen, better try at least to smoothly transfer the conversation to another topic. Remember the courtesy and culture of speech. Speak clearly, make sure that the person understands you, and he is also interested in listening.
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Keep a positive attitude and smile more. Look at the person in the eye. You can even touch it lightly, but only if you already feel free when talking.
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Finish your meeting by thanking the other personfor having a good time with him. Tell me that you were very pleased to talk. If everything went well, you can ask if your new friend has any plans for this or that day, and agree on a new meeting. It is also desirable to exchange contact information: leave your phone number or e-mail address. In parting, you can embrace a person or shake his hand.
