Tip 1: How to Learn Kindness
Tip 1: How to Learn Kindness
Kindness changes the world. This is a natural quality inherent in every person by nature. The modern society suppresses it, replacing it with aggression, a race for profit, ignoring requests for help. To be kind, we must develop this quality in ourselves, not let it fade.
Instructions
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Determine what the concept of "good" means for you. Good is an unselfish help to any person (without the slightest hope of gratitude) who needs this kindness. Realize the difference between good and pity. Do not call it good, if it is done to make it easier for you: how good you are - helped the needy. No matter how much you want to help, do it only when you are asked to do it (you can ask at the mental level - this must be felt). Wherever the ego reigns, there is no good.
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Love the world and everything that it gives you. Equally treat the negative and positive aspects of your life: both are lessons. For someone who is positive, it is much easier to do good.
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If you are good with animals, take a pet and start caring for it. Do not want to take in the house? Feed pigeons on the street, stroke the neighbor's dog (which you are not afraid of).
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Look around you. Perhaps a young man punching his way needs your advice, an elderly person - a simple conversation, children - training in courtyard games, and your yard - children's and playgrounds. If you change something in the world around you, and there is a desire for it, do it.
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Try to avoid evaluative judgments. They "include" your ego.
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If there is a desire, do volunteer work. For example, arrange a subbotnik near the river, organize a holiday in an orphanage.
Tip 2: How to learn the positive perception of life
Thoughts create your reality. Accordingly, if they are depressed, life is seen only in gloomy tones, which negatively affects not only the mood, but also the well-being. Whatever difficulties lay on your shoulders, you need to look for pluses and positives in any situation.
Instructions
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Learn from the experience. Positive perception does not mean that you need to ignore problems and troubles. Do not dive into the experience, and look for the pros even in the failures. Do not get hung up on the negative - think what good you can learn from the situation, what you can learn and what conclusions to make. Cope with emotions, analyze the problems and spend your energy on its solution, not self-flagellation.
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Control your thoughts. Focus on the positive moments that happen every day. Even such trifles as bright sun, warm wind, beautiful flowers or lovely playing children can make your life much happier. You just have to notice them and fix them in memory, and when something unpleasant happens, remember the positive moments, that is, switch from bad to good. Look for a reason to smile during the day and remember these feelings.
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Add a positive to your life. If you can not find in the surrounding people and events, even a grain of joy, or this is not enough to create a good mood, then make yourself beautiful and unforgettable every day. Buy flowers, pamper yourself with a delicious dessert, go shopping, sign up for a dance, devote the whole day to your favorite hobby - lots of options, you can think out something interesting every day. Think about what you would like to do, and embody your desire.
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Create a diary of joy. The most effective will be to manually write down all the positive events that occur every day in a specially designated notebook for this, as well as the good thoughts that you recorded during the day. At first it will be difficult to organize yourself and try to remember something joyful for 2-3 points at least, but in time you will get used to and will get into taste. When there is a written confirmation before your eyes that there are moments in life that cause a smile, what is happening does not seem so pessimistic.
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Smile. Increase the mood for yourself and others can be with the most ordinary smile. It operates in two directions: it programs you to positive emotions, and also gives a good attitude to people with whom you contact, and they, in turn, begin to communicate with you on a positive wave, to smile, which is similarly acting on you. That is, a smile is returned to you by kindness, which makes life more joyful.
