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Now there is no such thing, but new concepts have appeared,such as "mobbing" and "bossing" - persecution of an employee by a team or superiors. The purpose of these actions, at first glance, looks primitive: the one who etches, seeks firing of the employee. However, not everything is so simple, and if you become a victim of harassment, it is important to calmly understand the situation, so as not to fall into it again and again.

Consider from the side the situation, when some become victims, and others - beaters. What is the reason for such a conflict? There can be several:

• If the employee is too distinguished against the general backgroundteam: when looking for a guilty look boss, as a rule, falls on the first one, and if the woman looks bright and original, then the victim of the charge will certainly become it. Too bright or unusual hair color, bold outfits or excessive jewelry - all can be the cause.
• The desire to oppose the collective,especially unwillingness to participate in common affairs or preparation for the corporate, participation in competitions. It hurts colleagues if they all want to take part in events.
• Frank introspection before the authorities or attempts to make a romance with the boss. Nobody will like this.
• Non-recognition of the authority of the informal leader of the collective and attempts to belittle it. The general opinion in this case will rise against you.
• Unwillingness to take on additional responsibilities, while they all have.
• The behavior of a typical "victim": fawning in front of colleagues, unwillingness to respond to criticism and even open insults. This provokes further persecution.

From the side of colleagues it looks, of course,unattractive, but to understand the reasons that motivate people to do mobbing is very useful. After all, understanding the situation - this is a 50% guarantee that you can get out of it as a winner. So, what motivates the collective to persecute the employee:

• Anxiety, that there is someone nearbyunusual, not like everyone else, with unusual manners and incomprehensible looks. Colleagues do not want to strain and understand why a person is not like them. It is easier to remove this factor of irritation and to live habitually.
• Elementary envy. If the newcomer has achieved professional success, deserved a good attitude of the superior or something else has reached very quickly, then envy can quite arise: the stereotype that the longer an employee works, the more deserved, still alive, although this is not always true.
• Attempt to protect yourself professionally(fear that a more successful employee will be put in his place, even if you do not claim it.) This is an unconscious fear, so it's very difficult to fight with him).
• Just a desire to have fun. At the same time, some people think that it is very fun to humiliate colleagues, while others seem to experience "weakly" - whether it will stand or not. In both cases, the behavior of colleagues is unworthy, but they do not understand this.
• An attempt to assert itself at the expense of a colleague, to confirm the significance of his work and himself personally. This, unfortunately, is not uncommon in our life.
• Search for a victim, where you can disrupt a bad mood and on whom you can put disappointment from your failures, both personal and professional.

How to find a way out of this situation? As a rule, comprehension of the reasons for mobbing or bossing already gives food for thought and leads to ways out of the conflict. Here you can apply a very effective method of "non-identification", when a person looks at himself from outside: you need to imagine that it was not you, but someone else who was persecuted in the collective and advised him how to overcome it. That is, do not identify yourself with this person, and give him advice as an outsider. In any case, it is worth considering that very often the reason for the conflict is an elementary misunderstanding.

If this technique does not help, try the following: consider the reasons for the persecution and try to level them:

• give up too bright appearance;
• follow the speech - it often happens that some statements are perceived by colleagues as inadequate;
• try to make friends by buying a cake and inviting colleagues to tea in honor of the first salary or on another occasion;
• frankly talk with the leader of the team and tell them that your intentions towards colleagues are the most benevolent and sincere;
• ask for help from colleagues in those matters where you are not very oriented - this will increase their image in their own eyes, and they will feel like your patrons, not enemies;
• take on some kind of duty such as watering flowers or airing the room - it's easy, but often colleagues forget about it.

If these methods do not suit you, you can try to respond by force to force:

• put in place a brave colleague or an unbalanced boss - say that you understand the reasons for such boorish behavior;
• mark the boundaries of their working space and their duties, so that they do not hang too much and then do not quibble;
• find in themselves those "hooks" for which malevolent colleagues (what you are offended at) can catch, and try to remove them;
• Learn how to deal with stress withbreathing, meditation and other techniques - this is necessary in order to quickly calm down, if it was not possible to react to something calmly, otherwise the working day will be spoiled;
• understand that if everyone reacts calmly (calm should be inside), then very soon you will be left behind.

If this does not help, think about whether you needthis job? Perhaps it will be much easier to find another, with a more friendly team? Then start looking for another job and quietly live on, but with a more extensive experience of communication with colleagues.