What to do if a child in 3 years rolls hysterics
Three years is the age when the child beginsfeel yourself an individual, independent person. He has his own desires, which sometimes disagree with the opinion of his parents, which can cause irritation and even hysterics. In addition, at this age children still do not know how to express their desires with words and are upset because of this, which also leads to crying and screaming.
Why does a child roll up tantrums?
A child in three years can roll up hysterics bymany reasons. First, children at this age have already realized that they are not one with the mother, that they are separate, independent individuals. They have their own needs, and as young children do not know how to wait and their patience has not yet developed, they begin to demand fulfillment of their desires right now and, having refused, are very upset and roll up the tantrum. Secondly, despite independence, the three-year-olds want parents to show their love as often as possible, which previously seemed unconditional, now they need actions and actions, and children can not regard words and care with love as yet. Thirdly, they already know how to perform the basic actions: walking, talking, dressing, eating, but they have few opportunities. Therefore, often there are fears that he will remain alone, that he will be abandoned. All these feelings are too intricate and complex, so they can be expressed in words, and the child becomes upset, screams, cries and rolls up hysterics. Sometimes the kid knows that tantrums help to achieve their goals and apply this method if they want a new toy, sweets, watch cartoons or play, in which case it is a way of manipulation that can not be encouraged. And in many cases, children simply do not know how to control their negative emotions and show them in such a way - in the form of hysterics. What to do with hysterics?
First of all, when and wherever occurredhysteria with your child, stay calm and do not lose your temper. Do not try to calm his convictions, nor stop him shouting or bans. It is desirable or not to react in any way to violent manifestations of emotions, or to try to hug and hold the child to oneself if the hysterics becomes uncontrollable. Speak affectionate words and comfort him. Some psychologists advise you to go to another room and leave the baby alone - if it was only a tricky manipulation, he will quickly calm down. But with real hysteria, a child can become scared when there is no one, so it's better to be around and wait until emotions settle down. In no case do not make concessions, even in public, when a child requires something - he will quickly understand that this is how you can set your conditions. Parents need to have control over the situation ,. If the baby begins to behave too violently, he should be taken to a safer place. After hysteria calmly talk to the child, try to express yourself in words, because of what he was upset that he realized that this is a more effective way to express your desires.
