How to understand and outsmart your mistress
How to understand and outsmart your mistress
Few things can shake and sting a womanstronger than the betrayal of her husband. Especially if that she is a deceived wife, she is told by her mistress mistress. For example, by phone. And even in the most offensive, terse expressions: they say, marriage has become an empty formality, the husband lives with her only for the sake of children or obeying the sense of duty.
Instructions
1
Shock, shock, burning resentment. The woman seems at such a moment, as if the earth is leaving from under her feet. The first and most natural reaction: it can not be, it's some stupid joke or revenge! But the interlocutor begins to tell his wife about such details, which were known only to her and her husband, and even literally savoring them. And up to the shocked woman gradually comes: it's not a joke and not revenge, but a sad truth. What to do? To arrange a terrible scandal to the unfaithful spouse? To file for divorce? Stop! And now think, because this is what a mistress is trying to achieve. For what purpose she called you. Really from the notorious female solidarity: they say, she, poor thing, does not even suspect about the true appearance of her husband, so I'll open her eyes? Nothing like this. Its only purpose is to make you as painful as possible so that you decide to break off relations with your husband.
2
Try to understand your opponent as a woman. She also wants family happiness. She is burdened with the status of a mistress, she wants to be called a legitimate wife. She is unbearable with the thought that your husband stubbornly does not leave his family, that for him it is a temporary option. It is clear that this woman feels jealousy and instinctive dislike towards you, because it is you who are hindering her happiness. Her revelations are an attempt to anger, embitter you, destroy your marriage. Do you really go to her on the occasion, actually fulfilling her secret desire?
3
Of course, you are greatly offended, angry. But try to calm down after all, because you need to make important decisions on a cold head. Objectively and impartially analyze your family relationships, try to find the answer to the question: why did the husband get a mistress, what did he miss? If you have enough wisdom and justice to admit that in the incident there is also your share of guilt, consider that half the battle has already been done. Make the necessary adjustments to your behavior, and your husband will very soon pull you towards him like a magnet.
4
In no case do not take revenge on your mistress, notcome to her to work or home with disassembly. You yourself will be guilty. Remember: she wants to provoke you to play the role of an innocent martyr. Do not give her such pleasure.
5
If you decide to save the marriage, try not toreproach her husband, especially, do not blackmail: "Go to her - I will not let you meet children!" This is unworthy, and just stupid. Better calmly let him know that you all know, but are ready to forgive and forget. With this simple trick you outwit the mistress, upset her intrigues.
