Survive a divorce with minimal harm to the child's psyche
Survive a divorce with minimal harm to the child's psyche
Divorce is always a difficult time for the whole family. Everyone is suffering, including a child. How to protect the baby from parental disassembly, without traumatizing his psyche? While the parents find out the relationship and divide the property, the child catches every word, mood, reaction.
Instructions
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When the family collapses, it's hard to keepcalm, easy to succumb to panic and dramatize a divorce. Negative thoughts and feelings are easily transmitted to the child. Now the child is in desperate need of attention, care and positive emotions, because mother's love is the best vaccination from life's misfortunes.
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Instructing the child that divorce is not an excuse forwe ignore his feelings, do not take them seriously. Whatever one may say, leaving a father from the family is a big loss. Explain to the child that you understand how painful and scary it is.
3
You behaved badly, so Dad left. Say this is capable of a woman who scolds and despises herself for not being able to save the marriage, but offering the child to share with her responsibility for the failed relationship. Try not to involve children in the conflict of adults: this is a very serious test for a child of any age.
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For the child, dad is an important and beloved person, fromwhich he inherited many features of appearance and character. Therefore, the child can transfer criticism to himself: if the pope is bad, then so do I. If a girl hears bad reviews about her father, she gets an installation "all men are bad." Try to talk about the positive qualities of the ex-husband, and also let the child communicate with the father, if this desire is mutual.
