The problem of tolerance education in adolescents
The problem of tolerance education in adolescents
In adolescence, a person is formedbasic values and attitudes. Therefore, from the point of view of parents and adults, the problem becomes especially important, how not to give teenage aggressiveness a stable character trait, a habitual way of behavior and problem solving already in the further, adult life.
Accessibility of information and dialogue
Explanatory and educational work withthe family and school are very important. The right circle of reading, a selection of films, thematic lectures in the school and conversations at home with parents help shape the adolescent's worldview, teach him to be tolerant, sympathetic, respect different points of view, and not resort to aggression as the only way to resolve the conflict.
Parents should act with friendly advice,recommending and gently picking and shaping, but, without imposing on the child, books, articles. It is important to discuss what has been read and seen with the family so that the teenager can hear the parents' opinion not in the form of notations, but in the course of the dialogue, where he also has the opportunity to be heard and understood. In such a mild form it is worth discussing the events in school, problems and conflicts with peers.
Parents - an example to follow
But often adults are faced with the fact thatremarks and long educational conversations practically do not bring results. This is due to the fact that the adolescent begins to oppose himself to adults in the process of realizing his individuality.
But, paradoxically, it is in the teenage example of parents - the most effective means of education. Excessive pressure on the child, the desire to suppress, excessive and unjust punishments - all this only convinces the child more of the "right of the strong," that is, aggression and violence are the most effective ways of resolving conflicts.
If the parent family has an atmospheretrust and respect, between the parents themselves and between the children; if adults show respect for the opinion of a teenager, which may not coincide with their opinion, the teenager gets experience of effective practice of seeking compromise and dialogue as an effective way to resolve disputes and conflicts. He does not just learn to find and offer such compromises, but this model is transferred to them and to relationships with other people. After all, despite the teenage rebellion, it is the model of communication accepted in the parental family that the person in most cases reproduces in his family, as well as the way to resolve conflicts and build relationships, he "takes out" of relations with parents.
Therefore, the main way of educating a teenager iseducation by example, when in practice, he can be convinced of the correctness of the values and lifestyle of parents, and as a supplement and support for such confidence, conversations, discussions and informing the adolescent are necessary.
